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Homeless twice with kids/ new home. AMA

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Nomoremoves · 15/08/2023 20:02

I have been in my home for just under 18 months . I know it sounds silly but I still get a little excited about it .

Me and my children became homeless twice under section 21. (No fault eviction)

We were in a few temporary accommodations. In a way we were lucky as they were self contained flats/houses. It would have been so much worse in a hostel. Our belongings were put into storage. And we went into interim accommodation. There were millions and millions of red ants. It was awful it was Impossible to get rid of them. There was mouse drippings all over the place. We called the council pest control they put bait boxes down which was pointless as they were not dealing with where they were coming from. So I had to put traps down and do hole hunt and filled everywhere I could find. It seemed to work.
We were provided with beds . There were blood stains on the mattress and base it was gross.

The location was awful. One side there was a club we had no double glazing and we were on a really busy road that was busy 24/7 plus noise from the club we barely slept in someways that was the worst next to no sleep is the worst.

We were then moved again this time it was temporary accommodation in a house with garden. First night there. And my kids are bitten by loads of bed bugs it was awful one if my sons was allergic and his lips were swelling . His skin was awful. The other kids had bites all over them. The whole place was manky. No matter how much we tried to clean it. It was manky. We had rats coming up the toilet and we Could hear mice/rats banging on the boxed up pipes . Felt dirty actually getting a bath.

We kept getting mice on the kitchen. I blocked all the holes I could get to and I boared up the sink unit so the door could not be open and it used wood wire wool expanding foam to block all the kick boards.
On another base unit I removed the kickboard abd left it off. I took my children to school. Came home and saw what looked like a leather strap poking out. I looked properly and it was a big dead rat. I removed the whole base unit filled in Any holes . With wire wool and filler plus wire mesh them mdf on top then put the base unit on top. I seemed to have got rid of the problem in the kitchen.

I think we were at that address for around 3 years.

I have only written about 2 places but we were in a few.

I think we were in temporary accommodation for around 5ish years in all.

Normally the wait for a permanent home in my area in 10-15 years but there was a big change and we got moved to band 1 under life in danger.

So I bidded on a house which I won the bid. Its the best house ever . We have proper space . The 2 youngest have a proper bedroom they have never had a proper room. It took them a good few months to play on their room. And theh would get n each others beds. I have a bedroom for the 1st time in several years. Oh and my autistic son started using the toilet right away. At the temporary place he had a child's commode as he would not use the toilet. Everyone has their own space and it feels like a normal family home. Our living room is a good size which means we can have nice family Christmas. And have bbqs . I can cook properly. Can have baths and not feel manky it feels clean and like it's actually our home.

I have added a AMA incase anyone is going through simlar. And may need some tips, advice.

If you made it this far I would like to apologise for such a boring post.

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Toddlerteaplease · 15/08/2023 20:13

Well done you! I hope you'll be very happy in YOUR HOME!

Nomoremoves · 15/08/2023 21:18

@Toddlerteaplease thank you. So much. I know the thread is a bit odd. But I was reflecting 😅

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BBno4 · 15/08/2023 21:23

I'm still waiting for my permanent. Have been in temporary since 2018. I've has ants, bedbugs cockroaches, mice and baby rats several times over. I have complained to the MP, council and environmental health.

Eventually the pest were taken care of but I still feel anxious and on edge all the time. My question is, how did you eventually get them to house you?

I feel trapped in purgatory. I was 25 when I moved here and now I'm 31! My children's childhoods are dwindling away and I can't buy decent furniture incase we have to move again.

I was also evicted through S21

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Nomoremoves · 15/08/2023 22:14

BBno4 · 15/08/2023 21:23

I'm still waiting for my permanent. Have been in temporary since 2018. I've has ants, bedbugs cockroaches, mice and baby rats several times over. I have complained to the MP, council and environmental health.

Eventually the pest were taken care of but I still feel anxious and on edge all the time. My question is, how did you eventually get them to house you?

I feel trapped in purgatory. I was 25 when I moved here and now I'm 31! My children's childhoods are dwindling away and I can't buy decent furniture incase we have to move again.

I was also evicted through S21

Have they given you any idea on how long your likely to wait? Do you bid?

How I eventually got housed is complicated. It was all under life in danger. Other wise I would have been waiting several more years.

When we were in temporary we just made it home best we could. We decorated. Made the bedrooms feel like kids rooms. Led lights . Nice wallpaper. I even debuted one of the rooms 🤣. It sounds silly but it kept us going cheered it up a bit and gave us something to do.

Sorry for what your going through temporary is shit . But you will get there one day.

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BBno4 · 16/08/2023 16:38

I'm bidding but coming 64 out of 145 for example. They haven't given me any idea how long.

PinkPlantCase · 16/08/2023 16:58

I absolutely don’t mean to be rude by asking this, it sounds like things have been so tough for you and I’m glad you now have a permanent stable home.

But why have you needed to be so reliant on the council?

Why couldn’t you rent somewhere else and have a bit more control over where you live? (I know it costs money but it does for everyone!)

Do you work? What job do you do?

Is the children’s father involved?

Nomoremoves · 16/08/2023 18:32

PinkPlantCase · 16/08/2023 16:58

I absolutely don’t mean to be rude by asking this, it sounds like things have been so tough for you and I’m glad you now have a permanent stable home.

But why have you needed to be so reliant on the council?

Why couldn’t you rent somewhere else and have a bit more control over where you live? (I know it costs money but it does for everyone!)

Do you work? What job do you do?

Is the children’s father involved?

Private is not secure. Hence 2 evictions. I did not want that to happen again. You kind of said the answer within your question pernament stable home.

Reliant on council because of what I said above. and also cost of private rent.

I'm a single parent.

I Don't as I have special needs children.

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