Hey there! I've been finding myself frequently making decisions that I later regret, and even though it might seem trivial, these choices often lead to financial losses, or sometimes more serious consequences. Even if not serious, my choices frequently leave me feeling upset. Could you help me figure out where I might be going wrong?
Here are some examples:
- I was faced with a decision about whether to have my newborn's tongue cut due to being slightly tongue-tied. I was told it might help but it might not and the nurse left it up to me to decide. My initial inclination was not to proceed. I asked for time to think (go away and come back in a couple of weeks if want to do it) but the nurse gently pushed me into making the procedure right then. Unfortunately, the feeding issues worsened afterward.
- When it came to my baby's delivery, I didn't advocate for a Caesarean, and while the baby’s distress that happened later was due to unforeseen and unrelated reasons, I can't help but feel it could have been avoided if I was braver
- I've made quite a few blunders while decorating our home:I'm not a fan of our downstairs flooring, but it's a compromise since my partner didn't like my preferred option.
- Our oak bed looks too hard, and I'm realising I've always wanted a soft headboard
- I chose between two sets of blinds, but the ones I picked ended up looking grim
- Our expensive shower tray discolored quickly and a nightmare to clean
- I regret not installing a shower set for our bathtub since we have a separate shower but regret it massively now (rinsing bathtub is a pain!)
- My decision-making woes even extend to simple things, like picking a which recommended car seat after lots of research that turned out to be uncomfortable for our newborn.
- I've bought stylish but impractical items, like a high chair, and now I'm going for a more functional Ikea option, so money wasted here
- I've experienced frustration with trivial things like wasted groceries and trouble picking out a new phone
- Sometimes, I find it hard to decide on takeout, fearing it won't be enjoyable or worse, might cause food poisoning
- I'm in a cycle of buying both cheap (thinking I am not overpaying) and expensive clothes (thinking they will look better and be a better quality), and many end up not working for me
- I ended up with the wrong duvet for our home, and I've chosen unreliable trades companies despite their credentials
- Even after a decade, I still think about a wedding ring I didn't choose because I liked the atmosphere of the an independent shop where I bought from
- I've even regretted some appliance purchases despite them being highly recommended by which
On top of that, I've lost touch with my clothing style. I'm wondering if I'm trying too hard to please others or struggling with mainstream preferences versus my own. Sometimes I get trapped into thinking I am trying to save money whilst still buying a good product (hence using which) and regretting it (like with some appliances or car seat). Other times when I try to let go of practicalities and choose what I like it will end up either not fit for purpose or impractical. It makes me worried I am making the wrong decisions all the time now!
Sorry for the rant—I know there are more significant issues out there (myself dealing with a few serious health related worried and other life issues) but I also feel like I'm going through a bit of a perineal crisis and trying to figure out what's going on with me. Thanks for listening! 😊