TTC timing, what would you do?

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We get married in October. It doesn’t make much difference but I wondered if TTC now (aiming for May birth) would be better than July/August/September - being pregnant for the whole of next summer and hayfever season. Not that bothered about drinking, I usually take it or leave it. We are going on honeymoon straight after, 3 hour flight.

I haven’t suffered with morning sickness before and have just felt if anything quite tired. If we conceived immediately I’d be 9-10 weeks. I know this isn’t necessarily a sure indicator but conceived immediately previously.

What would you do? Am I just being impatient and would you wait if you were us?

No, I’d wait. You don’t know, even if you haven’t experienced it previously, whether you’ll feel unwell and being I’ll and tired at your wedding won’t be fun.

How old are you?

I'd wait til after your honeymoon. I have been pregnant through 2 summers and not had any issues. But I probably would aim to avoid a summer baby for school reasons, personally.

Mainly though, I would want to enjoy my wedding and honeymoon. You only do it once (in theory), so make the most of it and think about babies after.

That’s true, thank you

I would definitely wait until after the wedding but I like a drink and would feel like I was missing out if I couldn't have some champagne on my wedding day.
I don't want to scare monger but I would also worry about something going wrong with the pregnancy whilst I was on honeymoon and ruining the memories of being newly married.

My pregnancies made me extremely ill and jt would have been a real shame to try and get married in that state! Agree with the others unless you are absolutely in last chance saloon fertility wise I would hang on.

I think my answer would probably depend on how old you are, as annoying as that is!

still in 20s to all who have asked

My 2nd pregnancy I had nausea 24/7 until 36 weeks. No way would I have wanted that for my wedding day and honeymoon. I would wait till January to try to conceive personally so you can hopefully have a September born onwards so they aren't the very youngest at school. You have plenty of time on your side on your 20s.

In that case I would wait

I guess as we are young we have the opportunity to wait but I do feel really impatient, I think I’d be fine given that I haven’t been sick previously but then what difference does a couple of months of waiting make :)

How young is young?

There’s quite a difference between 21 and 29

I do feel really impatient,

does he?

How long have you been together?

Yes, he wants to be a dad just as much as I do. Several years and lived together for two. Are you okay? Seems like a lot of questioning which isn’t really relevant to what I asked.

*just as much as I want to be a parent

Having known a dear friend have a miscarriage on her wedding day, personally I'd wait.

Wait to fully enjoy wedding and honeymoon. You never know we may have an awful summer like this year anyway then the worry about being heavily pregnant in the heat doesn’t matter!

I would wait till after your honeymoon. I wouldn't want to be pregnant on my wedding day. You don't know how shit you'll feel. Plus you could lose the pregnancy (1 in 4 chance) and have your wedding ruined.
Wait for the complicated stressful stage of your relationship for after you're married.