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If you’re a former people pleaser…

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Weechookiebirdie · 14/08/2023 16:35

Have you found yourself at the other end of the spectrum?

I was a people pleasing, always toed the line, never questioned anything, yes person all my life. Then when I turned 30 a couple of years ago, I found my voice/backbone and gradually started to become more confident and didn’t just going along with things. It was like something just clicked. I no longer do things I’m not comfortable with, I care much less about what people think and am very much enjoying the freedom that comes with it.

This is a good thing obviously but I’m now at the point where I think I have, not a problem with authority exactly but I don’t respect it. I hate and struggle with following rules which I think are pointless or arbitrary. This is mostly in relation to work - to be clear, I’m good at my job and a hard worker but I find myself fighting against constant bureaucracy, micro management and and rules which I deem unnecessary (I work in local government rife with nepotism and cronyism, and all manner of incompetence which probably exacerbates the the problem).

Anyway, is this just a consequence of getting older and my tolerance for nonsense becoming lower, or have I turned into a bit of a dick?

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