Have I left it too late to have another?

[Sunshineandflowers1234]

I have two sons who are 3 and 4 (15 months apart). I think I want a third, but whenever I have spoken to anyone about it they have said the following:
-the gap will be too big between the 3 year old and baby.

• I should have 2 more as the younger one will be left out
• people saying I would be doing it for a girl and three boys would be really hard.

I know it is mime and husbands decision but there just to be so much negativity!! I am 33 and my husband is 38.

Not too late at all. You’re over thinking it :)

Stop speaking to people about it. Problem solved.

That seems fine to me. You're young enough. My sister is 2.5 years old than me and 6 years older than our brother.

My mum is one of 5. She's 11 months younger than her oldest sister. Then there's an 8 year age gap before her next pair of sisters. The youngest is 18 years younger than the oldest.

Of course you haven't left too late! In fact one will be in school and the other in nursery some of the day so you'd have a lovely time 😄 That's assuming that you get pregnant quickly. I have 21 months between mine, I would have loved more but age and finances didn't allow unfortunately.

I have twin boys who were 4 when their baby sister was born. She’s still a baby but I don’t think the age gap is too big. We aren’t planning a 4th either! I think stop asking others opinion and do what you want to do

Honestly you can never please everyone, not that it's any of their business. I have a 7 year gap, not by choice but after numerous miscarriages I'm just glad they are fit and healthy. If you want a third have it because you and your husband want it. Nothing is guaranteed so if you do end up having a third I'm sure you will be delighted regardless of the sex and the baby would lot nicely into your family.

What?! Your ages are fine, kids ages are fine - there's nearly 3.5 years between me two and if we have a third it will be about that much again between DC2 and DC3. It's worked fine for us, all age gaps have their pros and cons. If you both want it, go for it.

Hi @Sunshineandflowers1234
I don't think you've left it too late, i would have a third baby. I know siblings who are 10 years apart and it was all good. All the best in your decision xx

People say all kinds of bollocks. Of course it's fine. What kind of terrible problems are they imagining. I have an almost two year gap between 1&2 and a four year gap between 2&3 - and it's worked out brilliantly. Plus there is a bonus in that we'll have a 1 year breather in supporting kids through uni.

The gap between my brother and me was 3.5 years. Mother Nature decreed that it was appropriate, my parents would have preferred a smaller gap.

A 3/4 year gap is fine. Most people can't remember being 4, so your oldest kid won't remember life without his new sibling.
If you can do it financially, your jobs are stable enough to support a larger family, you have a big enough car, you BOTH agree and you have enough space, it sounds fine. However if it is because you want a girl this time (doesn't sound the case), no way is it fine.

Girls are harder than boys in my opinion 👸
It's not too late. There are pros and cons to every age gap. Look at the pros - it will teach the older ones responsibility, they will remember core memories like when the baby first walks, talks etc. They can also help with small tasks and it won't be the total chaos of 3 babies. Not too late at all :) go for it

If you think of the adult siblings you know and think about the age gap between them you will see age is just a number and it doesn’t have any baring on how they all get along. Lots of people choose a 4 year age gap between their children anyway and they usually get on just fine. Whether they get along with each other is more down to personality than age. The only time I’ve seen issues with age gaps between siblings is when it’s 10+ years between them and so they have less in common.

You could end up with twins. I had four DC because I had a five year gap between 2 and 3. So I had no4 to even things out so that no3 had company.

No, you are not too old.

Mine are 16yo, 13yo, 8yo and 6yo. Don't let a big gap put you off.

People get so weird about this stuff. Ds1 is 7 and DS2 is 3.

We may have another in a couple of years, we may not. Even DS1 being 10 I wouldn't have thought it 'too late'

11 years between and this one and 19 between my partners eldest and this one.

3 -4 years is Nature’s gap. It’s perfectly normal.

Thank you everyone!! I guess I am thinking too much into it, and shouldn't discuss it with friends.
It is so lovely to read all your stories of a similar (or bigger) age gap!!
my youngest LOVES babies, and everything he sees a pushchair he wants to see the baby to say hello... it is very adorable.
Good point about the older two helping out too, I hadn't really thought of that.
I guess we do need to consider if it is financially OK with two... i have heard the saying "do you want the kids to survive, or thrive" which I think is so important when thinking about having more.
I love seeing my two play together, and think it would be amazing to have another one.

I hope not, mine are close and youngest is 4.5 - I still toy with the idea of another!

Not left it too late at all, my db & sil had their third when my dnephews were 7&8 they luckily had a much wanted girl. But my dn is the definite wild child and worshipped by her brothers and my dd who is the only other girl.