DH died. I got lots of "let us know what we can do" messages and I took the ones from what I considered close friends, at face value and asked for a few small favours.
I have some friends who make cakes. Nothing fancy, but they often make a fruit cake or a Victoria sandwich for a gathering, so I said if you'd like to, a cake for the funeral tea would be good. They agreed.
Anyway, funeral was on a Monday and on sending messages just to check who was bringing what, one friend said actually she'd be too busy to bake that weekend.
I know a cake is not a big deal, there was plenty of cake, my sister and my mum baked too, but the fact that they'd offered and agreed to help and then let me down without even telling me until I asked, really hurt me at a difficult time.
It's a long time ago now, but I don't think my feelings for that friendship have ever recovered. I don't think she feels the same about it either, maybe she never did and that's why she didn't bother.
I'm sure I'd have found time. no matter what to make a cake for the funeral of a good friend's husband, if I'd offered/agreed to do it.