Ive never been a big one to celebrate birthdays and no one has ever made a real fuss over me, DH inc, occasionally I’ll get very nice presents but never a surprise. If left to own devices DH gets me nowt. Couple of years ago I just said I wanted a really nice GF bday cake, like a bakery or nice Waitrose one to have with a bottle of fizz, super easy. plenty of notice, DH went to our tiny local M&S on morning of my bday and unsurprisingly they didn’t have anything suitable.
it’s my 40th coming up we’ve been talking about what we’ll do for about 18 months. Said don’t want to do a party and I know why can’t do anything abroad currently due to childcare and cost. Pre kids we were massive foodies so I said what I would like to do is go to a particular restaurant with some of your friends. Spoken to said friends
Told DH about 5 months ago to enquire as they get booked up, they told him you can book in 3 month blocks but most tables go on the day of release iykwim, spoke about it a couple of times since and asked him to diarise. I organise everything no one ever does anything for me and it just felt a bit sad organising my own 40th.
Of course he never did despite me reminding him again 48hrs before and him telling me he had diarised.
of course no tables left for the Friday or Saturday. For lunch or dinner,
Of course we had huge row.
He has managed to find a table on the Thurs at the later sitting, they are 6:30 or 9:45, only for two tho, but has gone and booked it.
I just feel meh, 9:45 is just too late for me, I know we might have had to face that being our only option on a Fri or Sat but said I would have rather done lunch. I’m exhausted by 9pm, we were going to travel down to it (4 hrs on train) or internal flight on the morning to save costs of staying over night before, I just know if we do that then im going to be on my knees by 10:30 (two young kids).
he’s suggested staying over on the Weds - we cannot afford really and could have done something more exciting with that cash, also this means Grandparents doing 3 pick ups and a two night sleep over, as we all know the admin for me and imposition of this on them is huge! DH says he will sort everything , aye right. Youngest is at a school where they swim and have PE twice a week so always a lot of organising. We had to do it last year for a wedding and to be honest the organisation took a real shine off. DH had suggested originally doing it on my actual bday on the Weds but I said no would rather do it the Fri or Sat before or after for this reason!
Also got to tell friends!!
All just feels a bit rubbish now and not easy and lovely like it should have done. He’s been sucking up and and asking me about hotels today and honestly I’m just not arsed now.