One friend trying to set another up with a man.

[PurpleSteak]

So, ridiculous situation really.

I have a group of friends, we meet up about once a week to do a specific activity and have lunch after. Mixed group of men and women aged late 30s to mid 50s. Mostly single. Some happily so, some would quite like to be partnered up.

Anyway, one of the few married women likes to think everyone should have a partner and from time to time tries to encourage various partnerships. Usually it's laughed off and ignored.

Recently she's working on getting woman A paired up with man C. It's well known that A would like a regular partner and C is very eligible.

However I happen to know that C has a soft spot for woman B who happens to be A's sister and they make a much more suitable couple IMO

It's absolutely none of my business and I'm not about to be come like interfering woman, but would you tell her to back off and leave what might or might not be happening naturally between B&C to do its thing?

My concern is that A & B are very close sisters and A is very reliant on B. Also quite needy re her love life. I know B will step away if there's any hint that A is interested, which I don't think she ever has been, but once the seed is sown... I'm sure C isn't interested in A so it would never happen, but I can see B deciding C is out of bounds if her sis might be interedted iyswim.

They're all good people who I like very much.

If C isn’t interested in A and is interested in B then I’m sure he’s capable of politely turning down suggestions of a date with A and making a move with B. If B wants to stand aside that’s up to her. There’s no point meddling in the situation and making it awkward or forced for anyone.

I would actually tell this woman, “look there’s a spark between C and B, but you’re in danger of killing off whatever that could become, because you keep trying to make something happen between C and B’s sister and that will make B back off.”

Hahahahaha.

A male friend of mine once dated a woman for six months (and then broke her heart). He was never interested in her but got set up by a mutual friend, went along out of politeness and then was too polite/awkward to get out of it. Don’t assume C is perfectly capable of backing out of this! If he was that great with women/communication, he’d be married already.

Yes my other concern is that he might well "date" A a few times, just for fun which is perfetly reasonable for two single people and once that's happened B will see him as off limits, especially if her sister has become more attached than him, which would follow a pattern for her and men.

No I wouldn't get involved. If they like each other and he's not into A, then it'll work itself out. People aren't usually controlled by others and neither can you stop him from dating A if turns out he likes her.