People laughing at my DD

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I am absolutely devastated and don’t know where to turn. My DD is very overweight - this has come about from years of secret binge eating after being bullied relentlessly at school. We have taken her to counselling and we are working to lose weight and improve her fitness. We are on holiday just now and a group of young women have just openly laughed and mocked her whilst we were in a restaurant. The whole family is so very upset and we’ve now had a massive fight and have separated. For context, my DC are both over 18 so not in danger. I am so very upset and I wanted to go and rip into this group of young women but my DD really didn’t want this. I just want to go home, I don’t want to be on this holiday anymore. It has ruined the whole holiday.

That sounds awful and I’m sorry that happened to your dd. I think she needs to be your priority though and you need to try and support her. If you are very upset and negative in front of her and saying you want to go home and don’t want to be on holiday anymore, your dd will feel at fault for this. If the family are fighting and separated, she’s going to feel awful. Tell her to ignore the women and to try and enjoy the holiday. Then continue to support at home with healthy eating and exercise choices which I do appreciate is a long and difficult road.

So sorry to hear that. Please respect your DD though, she probably doesn't want any more drama or embarrassment. I'm overweight myself and I've had derogatory comments from a bloke in the pub before. I just gave a scathing reply but you don't forget it!

I know it's hard but try to forget it and move on to have a nice time.

I’d agree OP that it’s better to remain on the holiday and to bloody well enjoy it.

You sound like a good mum.

Sorry sounds awful op. Agree the family need to get over their arguments and come together for her.

What sad bitches they are is your daughter ok?

Always remember OP, the people seeing all this play out will be thinking badly of the women, not you and your family

What do you mean you have had a big fight and separated, do you mean you and your daughers or you and your partner? Or you have had a big fight with the women?

Absolute bitches, OP.

What disgusting people.

In terms of helping your DD, this programme focuses on the person being the weight, and helps you with the work needed to sort out your head and value yourself at your current size whilst losing weight.

This is the free version which is great:

www.phit-n-phat.com/success-stories/

The paid version is about £50 a month and is a mental game-changer.