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Do I say anything or not .

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Safe16 · 13/08/2023 12:57

Message from my son:

[13/08, 01:23] We all might go on a walk cuz were not tired and have energy so we dont wanna be too loud indoors, but when we come back we will be dead silent coming in and quiet in my room
[13/08, 01:23] All our phones are charged

He ended up back at 3am. They had Been to the park. The others with him were his mate who's also 16 he had got locked out of his house. And ds boyfriend who's 17.

Ds has a social worker and a support worker. Do i tell at least one of them? My gut feeling is saying I should. But also they can't do anymore than I can.

I will be ignoring any judgemental or nasty comments.

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Helpmepleaseimbusy · 13/08/2023 13:03

Need more information. Why does he have a social worker etc? How long has he needed support? It all depends

Sparkletastic · 13/08/2023 13:06

Were they out getting high?

Fraaahnces · 13/08/2023 13:08

Honestly, no. Say nothing to DS. Tell his social worker. He is testing you.

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Safe16 · 13/08/2023 13:14

Sparkletastic · 13/08/2023 13:06

Were they out getting high?

No definitely not they claimed over a fence and went on the play equipment in a closed down playground type thing . It has like wooden wobbly bridges and climbing stuff.

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NeverAloneNeverAgain · 13/08/2023 13:41

Is there a risk of exploitation? Is this usual behaviour for them or a one off because they genuinely couldn't sleep? I would mention it to SW, definitely if there's worries around exploitation. You're right in there isnt anything different they can do than you, but depending on why the support is put in place, it could be part of a bigger picture. It's probably nothing sinister, but reaffirming the risks etc of being out at that time of night wouldn't do any harm.

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Safe16 · 13/08/2023 13:49

NeverAloneNeverAgain · 13/08/2023 13:41

Is there a risk of exploitation? Is this usual behaviour for them or a one off because they genuinely couldn't sleep? I would mention it to SW, definitely if there's worries around exploitation. You're right in there isnt anything different they can do than you, but depending on why the support is put in place, it could be part of a bigger picture. It's probably nothing sinister, but reaffirming the risks etc of being out at that time of night wouldn't do any harm.

Hes never done it before with friends. So possibly a one of . But he useful to do it regularly as a part of him kicking of. But hrs not done it in a while. Maybe he was showing off not sure

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NeverAloneNeverAgain · 13/08/2023 14:01

Safe16 · 13/08/2023 13:49

Hes never done it before with friends. So possibly a one of . But he useful to do it regularly as a part of him kicking of. But hrs not done it in a while. Maybe he was showing off not sure

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OK so maybe monitor it see if it becomes regular? I would deal with it directly with your son in terms of safety etc and mention it to SW in context of this happened so in response I've done this. You're showing you acted appropriately in the situation and have managed it accordingly.

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Safe16 · 13/08/2023 14:11

NeverAloneNeverAgain · 13/08/2023 14:01

OK so maybe monitor it see if it becomes regular? I would deal with it directly with your son in terms of safety etc and mention it to SW in context of this happened so in response I've done this. You're showing you acted appropriately in the situation and have managed it accordingly.

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Yeah I guess so. Thank you

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