Beckhams

[OliviaBean]

I'm starting to think their marriage might be real. Maybe they had their troubles but have stuck together. I know from my own experience that long term marriages or relationships go through many ups and downs.

Am I being naive? Is this one big PR exercise? Maybe I don't understand how PR management works. Any thoughts?

My thoughts are why are you interested in someone else's marriage?

This is called chat, no need to join in if you don't want to.

For what it's worth, I find marriages in general interesting, they are tough to keep going and I admire anyone who can keep things going. I used to think theirs was a PR exercise but I actually think they may have weathered the storm and fair play to them.

Well I assume it's real unless they break up as that would be the only real proof.

I think like many long marriages they've got to the point of acceptance.
By that point in a marriage you know what and what not expect.
If you're jointly happy with that then all good.
We've been married the same amount of time. It's certainly not all perfect but we expect the imperfections.
When you've been with one another for more than half your life that's something to treasure.

Of course their marriage is real! Like any other normal people, they no doubt understand that individually they should be getting something out of it. If not why bother staying married? It is not as if they have to rely on each other for financial reasons.

Not sure where the "Brand Beckham" thing came from but it looks like it is a fairly large part of their lives. As much as you can tell from social media, they do look to be quite a close-knit group and it is more than possible that D&V have elected to remain in the marriage (despite any drawbacks) because they have a solid relationship underpinning it all and it's better than the alternative.

They’re both past-it and irrelevant now in terms of celebrity, so staying married for the sake of their “brand” seems unlikely. I think that they probably have a strong bond, a shared sense of humour etc etc and genuinely get on well. As an aside, I’ve met her twice in a professional capacity and she’s warm, cheerful and funny - he’s a lucky chap.

They're at a nice point in their lives. No money worries, young and healthy to enjoy their relatively grown up kids.

They seem like a decent family, who have wethered peaks, and storms like most people. It seems like a lifetime ago when they were literally Britain's hottest couple!

I always get the impression he can't stand her tbh

Maybe they aren't into destroying kids lives through divorcing over petty squabbles like a lot nowadays

Hey? Based on what ...?

I always thought that too.

David's parents divorced once all the children were adults.

No one should stay married to someone they're unhappy with just for the sake of the kids, walking away from a marriage that isn't working should be as simple as possible. Much healthier to end it than struggle on.

I disagree.

Guilty people claim children are resilient, they aren't.

Children do better in their families of origin.

If once they are all grown up a couple chose to live apart then I don't see an issue with that.

Growing up knowing you're the reason your parents are unhappy is a shitty environment for children to be in. People claim their kids don't realise, I can guarantee that they do and that many of them blame themselves as the reason for it. Life is too short to waste it in an unhappy marriage.

Living with step parents is a really shittu way to grow up, especially atep fathers are an issue. Step Mother fairy tales are there for a reason. The stats show mental health and reduced life chances increase.

People claim their kids don't realise, I can guarantee that they do and that many of them blame themselves as the reason for it. Life is too long to be so selfish, childhood lasts a short time, its really criel giving children a unhappy lifetime with reduced life chances.

Why are the two choices bad marriage or bad step-parent? It's not either or.

Research actually shows that children who grow up with unhappy parents or within a strained parental relationship go on to carry that over into their own relationships, parenting and marriages. It damages their emotional well-being.

We should be encouraging people to walk away at the first sign of a red flag, no one but no one should be in an unhappy relationship and children should not be carrying the emotional baggage of being the reason their parents are wasting years of their lives on staying together for the sake of the kids.

Nobody is totally happy all the time. People did not always think that the meaning of life was personal happiness and it seems the more this is thought of as a Utopia the more uncurable mental illness has occurred.

Nobody is totally responsible for the joy or misery of another.

We weren't talking about an abusive marriage, you added that into the mix like a Strawman. As far as I know DB hasn't beaten up VB, financially abused her or gaslighted her, the worst I heard was a possible affair. About half if marriages have had an affair happen, both parties in the marriage may be unaware.

We were talking about possible boredom, mental health issues like OCD or anorexia being challenging, lazyness, narcissism, FOMO, grass is greener, Post natal depression, possible physical health issues, rubbish job, charity work not getting you on the new years honour list, excessive travel, being too interested in materialism, rubbish economy, it can contribute to unhappiness and people can transfer that.

Completely agree with this. And I grew up with two parents who clearly hated each other but waited to divorce until we were adults. That was bad enough. It ripped apart our family. Thank gd they didn’t do it when we were younger and would have lived through the fall out without anywhere else to escape to.

For the Beckhams it’s about the brand as much as it is about the family - they created it off the back of being together & need to ensure they stay together to keep it going. I think they probably do have an open marriage and yes I do believe the rumours about the affairs / children, because it was common knowledge in Spain. Anyone in Madrid at the time knew the Galacticos weren’t faithful to their wives / girlfriends.