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Give her the heads up or keep shtum?

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HawdMeBack · 12/08/2023 08:03

A friend of a friend has mentioned that her and her partner have booked a short break to a UK resort. She was waxing lyrical about the hot tub, pool and spa facilities and is really looking forward to it.

DH and I have been before and it was terrible! The accommodation was old, dirty, a lot of the facilities were poor - it was a huge disappointment all round.

I'm in 2 minds whether to tell her. I don't want to put a dampener on her excitement, but I also want to manage her expectations a bit. She thinks it's going to be the height of luxury and relaxation... it really isn't.

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irrationallypink · 12/08/2023 08:03

Don’t say anything, no point

Winterlove · 12/08/2023 08:05

I would let her know. Some places allow cancellation ahead of time and it would maybe allow her to find somewhere else.

SorrentoLemon · 12/08/2023 08:07

Don't say anything. It may have gotten better since you went, and their expectations of luxury may be totally different than yours.

GoodChat · 12/08/2023 08:08

Don't mention anything.

If you booked a weekend away for DH then he started banging on about how crap someone had told him it was, how would you feel?

pictoosh · 12/08/2023 08:10

Yes, try to imagine whether or not this would be helpful to you, given the same circumstances. Would you want to know?

I don't know, it's a tricky one.

pictoosh · 12/08/2023 08:12

Tbh given it's a friend of a friend, I wouldn't be that invested in her good time so probably wouldn't stir myself to say anything. If it was a good friend I would think about it.

SorrentoLemon · 12/08/2023 08:13

pictoosh · 12/08/2023 08:12

Tbh given it's a friend of a friend, I wouldn't be that invested in her good time so probably wouldn't stir myself to say anything. If it was a good friend I would think about it.

Also this. Didn't notice that it's a friend of a friend!

pictoosh · 12/08/2023 08:24

I'm trying to imagine this in my world. I'm a camper and seek out the prettiest, most remote and littlest campsites I can. Scenery and setting is priority.
I just got back from staying on one that looked lovely in the photos but personally, I was disappointed when I got there. Electricity pylons and fencing dominated the view and there was debris and machinery from building works going on. It was a bit scrubby and scrappy and lacking in charm. Interestingly, the reviews were full of people extoling the stunning scenery. Perhaps I have been spoiled.
If a good friend told me she had booked there I would probably relate my experience. If a friend of a friend said the same, I'd say "Oh nice".

pictoosh · 12/08/2023 08:26

Point being (sorry)...my idea of stunning scenery is clearly different from someone else's. Why pour cold water on it if you don't care about their holiday that much. They might think it's lovely.

Hibiscrubbed · 12/08/2023 10:45

I wouldn’t say anything. It’ll inevitably dent your friendship.

Firstly, it may have been smartened up. Secondly, she might have different standards to you. Thirdly, she may go anyway and then you’ll have put a dampener on it, and it’ll take the edge off if for her. Especially if she’s happy with it and is acutely aware you thought it was shit. It’ll make her feel lesser.

Hibiscrubbed · 12/08/2023 10:46

I also didn’t notice it was a friend of a friend. Definitely keep it zipped.

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HawdMeBack · 12/08/2023 11:07

Thanks all!

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