I am a teacher. During term time, my job is full on. My children are also heavily involved in a sport. They love it and are doing brilliantly but it does severely impact on family time together. Between my job and their activities term time is a bit mental.
I have spent the last couple of weeks just enjoying my kids whilst they are around. We have also met up with family friends that we haven't seen much. I've done a little bit more cleaning and tidying than usual however my dh thinks I should have done much more cleaning and tidying.
Trying to get much done whilst the kids are around is possible but realistically whilst I'm tidying one room, someone else will be causing havoc elsewhere.
I have been doing things whilst they have been at their activity. It doesn't stop for summer but training eases a little. I've also had to go into school a few times to set my room up etc. I've taken the kids to get all the school supplies too. We have all had the dentist appointments, opticians and doctor appointments that get left to the holidays when there is more time.
DH seems to think I'm lazing around here. I'm not. I'm just prioritising getting the kids out to do things - things that he himself has said he doesn't want to bother doing. So I've done it whilst he is at work. He basically wants me to become a domestic goddess over summer. He married the wrong woman if that is who he wants.
Im dropping to part time after summer as I have a chronic condition that leaves me amongst other things utterly exhausted. Im hoping to try and do more big cleans when im not working but everyone else will either be at work, school or nursery.
Am I wrong to do this? The house is clean but cluttered and untidy in parts. It does need doing but I don't think it should be coming before the kids.
I suggested he take the kids out tomorrow whilst I get cracking - really we need to have a toy cull. He is sulking because he wants to do something with all of us together.
Last week I even started getting up 2 hours before everyone else to clean kitchen cupboards and reorganise. He says that is me being a martyr. However it was the only way I could get it done it peace. I feel like I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. I am now in a very bad mood and want him to stop treating me like a skivvy!