Sorry for the long message!!
We would love to add one more to our family. We currently have 2 boys age 8 and nearly 10. We were very young when we had them both and whilst we have loved parenting and being the family we are, It was definitely an experience that was coated in shame. I would love to experience pregnancy and another child without being made to feel like we did something wrong. I know our two boys would adore a younger sibling as they are brilliant with relatives little children and love being around smaller children. Both of us would love another baby and there are so many pros to growing our family but the only CONs we can think of seem to be quite big factors to consider. Biggest factors is a selfish reason that our boys are older and it won't be long until we can leave them and get a night or 2 away together without children, something we have not done we are very much believers of children come into the world without asking to be born and so we sacrificed everything to ensure they didnt have to. We dont have a huge support network, my parents died when i was younger and he only has a mum who has mental health problems so we are not comfortable relying on for support/babysitting, we do have a babysitter we rarely use but wouldn't feel right going away for the night. Then the other bigger con is the age gap my eldest will be nearly 11 or older if we ttc soon and successfully. I can't decide whether we add to our family and put our own life on hold for another 10 or so years or accept we are finished and start living our lives. I am very happy and grateful to have 2 boys but can't help but feel like something is missing.