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Can I asked social worker to come a different day.

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Ted10 · 09/08/2023 21:36

Ok. So my kids are on a child in need plan . Due to my 16 year old being violent. Support has been put in place. Just wanted to give basic back story.

So today wed. Family practitioner came here to look at some ideas. Have a chat etc .

Social worker emailed to say she needs to do a visit. She gave the choice of today ie wed or tomorrow Thursday. I said Thursday as I already had the family practitioner coming.

Then on Friday. I have adult DD support worker coming over about her special needs child.

So 3 days I'm a row 3 professionals. Although to be honest the Friday 1 is to do with adult dd not my children.

But its stopping me doing things. It's been a struggle getting it and doing stuff . Due to not great weather. General struggles . Tomorrow looks like it's going to be a nice day. After that it gets rubbish again. And I really wanted to take the kids to the beach. But I don't know if it could cause issues if I say no for tomorrow. Family practitioner works with social services anyway so it's not like we have not been seen.

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WilkinsonM · 09/08/2023 21:39

Social workers have timescales to complete visits in which is why she'll have asked to do it by Thursday but the fact that she didn't plan it earlier isn't your responsibility. Yes you can ask to reschedule and she can't insist on a visit. However do try to accommodate her generally and be forgiving of last minute visit requests as it's really difficult to balance a large caseload and see everyone on time - and she's there to support, and can't do her job if she can't get in and see you :)

kierenthecommunity · 09/08/2023 21:42

I’d get it over and done with tbh. Then they can start deciding how to help. What time are they coming? It’s not like they’re going to be there hours so you’ll still have time to go out maybe

Mayhemmumma · 09/08/2023 21:44

Social worker here - a child in need plan is voluntary, you can change the date it's fine.

If your lack of engagement raises cause for concern or things were getting worse they could escalate your case but more than likely, if you said no thank you, the case would be closed.

The plan is meant to be supportive and useful for a family and should fit with your needs and commitments within reason.

EatThoseFrogs · 09/08/2023 21:44

Cancelling so late the night before doesn't look great, and to be honest is a bit rude if it's not for an emergency/unforeseen event.

Is there any chance you're nervous about the visit and subconsciously trying to put it off? I've been known to do stuff like that without even realising.

I'm sure you'd feel better getting it out of the way rather than it hanging over your head.

Good luck

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Ted10 · 09/08/2023 21:52

Mayhemmumma · 09/08/2023 21:44

Social worker here - a child in need plan is voluntary, you can change the date it's fine.

If your lack of engagement raises cause for concern or things were getting worse they could escalate your case but more than likely, if you said no thank you, the case would be closed.

The plan is meant to be supportive and useful for a family and should fit with your needs and commitments within reason.

I get mixed messages anything weather CIN is voluntary or not. Either way I'm not refusing because need support regarding my son . And as you know that means the other kids . That does pee me of . But never mind I will go with it 🤣

Yeah I get that lack of engagement could course a concern. But family practitioner came today . So not like we are off grid.

I your opinion is emailing me this morning and telling me she needs to come for a visit today or tomorrow reasonable.

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Ted10 · 09/08/2023 21:53

kierenthecommunity · 09/08/2023 21:42

I’d get it over and done with tbh. Then they can start deciding how to help. What time are they coming? It’s not like they’re going to be there hours so you’ll still have time to go out maybe

We are not at that stage.

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Ted10 · 09/08/2023 21:55

EatThoseFrogs · 09/08/2023 21:44

Cancelling so late the night before doesn't look great, and to be honest is a bit rude if it's not for an emergency/unforeseen event.

Is there any chance you're nervous about the visit and subconsciously trying to put it off? I've been known to do stuff like that without even realising.

I'm sure you'd feel better getting it out of the way rather than it hanging over your head.

Good luck

No I have seen her before. Nothing to do with avoiding being nervous. Also she only messaged saying she needs to see us today or tomorrow. So she gave next to no notice. Which I actually think is rude of her.

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stickssss · 09/08/2023 21:59

CIN is 100% voluntary and working with your consent. As other posters have said, the SW will have visit timescales to meet, but if you're not available, please contact as early as possible to rearrange. As a SW, any cancelled visit was a relief to menat the time as it gave space for other things. But then it meant the visit had to be squeezed in elsewhere.

Mayhemmumma · 09/08/2023 22:00

She's got her timescales to meet (and more than likely an awful lot of them) but you are still allowed to say no sorry that doesn't work for me.

LunaLula83 · 09/08/2023 22:02

No need to be difficult. Everyone is helping you. Visits won't take all day.

Azandme · 09/08/2023 22:05

Ask her to come early so you can go out? Or change the day.

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Ted10 · 09/08/2023 22:06

LunaLula83 · 09/08/2023 22:02

No need to be difficult. Everyone is helping you. Visits won't take all day.

It's not really that simple 😕

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MichelleScarn · 09/08/2023 22:09

Is it not good you're getting the help you've been saying you desperately want? All the other threads have been about NOT getting the help you need, why not accept it now?
You've had a really hard time of it recently.

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Ted10 · 09/08/2023 22:15

MichelleScarn · 09/08/2023 22:09

Is it not good you're getting the help you've been saying you desperately want? All the other threads have been about NOT getting the help you need, why not accept it now?
You've had a really hard time of it recently.

Rearranging an appointment. Which was given short notice in the first place. Is not rejecting help. To be honest sw don't help at all . I just tick a box with her. It's the family practitioner that is giving the support and others.

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