Handhold - Mum on 2 week wait pathway

[sadandanxiouss]

Looking for a handhold and a place to panic, really, whilst I try and work from home.

My Mum has a raised mark on her chest, noticed a few weeks ago. I persuaded her to go to the GP as it looks a bit strange (but not loads like the pictures of skin cancer online). She went today, and GP said due to its surface she thinks it’s a wart, but obviously they’ve referred her to the hospital to get it checked. I knew they’d do this as it’s standard practice for a skin change, I had a friend recently go through the exact same thing and all was fine. Except now I’m really panicking, convincing myself the doctor was lying about what she thinks it is and she’s going to have advanced melanoma, I’m going to have to care for her as she dies…

I’m only 29, I’m an only child and my Dad passed away from an aggressive cancer when I was 23. I just can’t stop thinking I’m going to be an orphan before I’m 30 and that every time something starts going well in my life something comes along and ruins it. There’s no point being hopeful for the future and making plans because life is just endlessly hard. I know I’m catastrophising and letting my anxiety win but it’s so hard.

I’ll hold your hand. Hopefully it’s nothing, but it’s good to get it checked out and dealt with if necessary. I understand the anxiety though, but take one day at a time, deep breath and remember most people on 2 week waits get the all clear.

GPs might slip up from time to time but I don't think they would lie about something like this.

My MIL used to get loads of skin cancers as she was born and brought up in a hot country, but they were all successfully removed and none were serious.

Hi @sadandanxiouss
Hand hold here xx
I know it's easier said then done but please try not to worry. Hoping the results come through all good and you can both move on from this xx

Here to hold your hand. You will have your answer very soon, but please do believe me - the doctor would not lie. Try your very best to fill your days up whilst your waiting for DM to get checked out, stay busy and occupied and focus on something else.

Thank you so, so much wonderful people. Your messages really helped calm my mind whilst I was on my own this afternoon.

Then my lovely husband came home and listened to me sob and reassured me, and made me laugh when he pointed out that even if my Mum does have skin cancer, I turn 30 in 3 weeks so I’m unlikely to become an orphan before that!

You’re all right - we just need to take it as it comes and be reassured it’s being looked at. My Mum doesn’t seem too worried so that made me feel better as well.