Do you ever just want to run away?

[Weathergirl007]

I’m tired. Long shift at work with lots of dramas from 5am.

Family life not the best at the min.

Stroppy 14 year old DD who hates me.

DH who is good in so many ways but lacks affection. Gaslighting me over me being annoyed at me telling him he was rude during dinner tonight when I was discussing my day and they were all ignoring / looking bored / overtalking me. He flounced out the room. Said kids agree that it was my fault.

DS 10 lovely.

Work really stressful of late and no downtime.

I’m not sleeping due to anxiety / family not caring when I do try to sleep / DH very noisy snorer.

My in laws are away and thinking of staying at their house just to get my head straight / get a good nights sleep but it will upset the kids so I can’t really do that.

Just needed to let that out really! I really feel like running away and booking sick at work …. but I won’t because it’s not fair in the kids and I have deadlines to meet at work.

Think I just needed to get that out 🙈

I have ear plugs but worry about wearing them due to me worrying about missing my alarm! 🙈🙈🙈

Just leave them and go. Cant DH do some of the cooking? My teen cooks his own food.

I am so tired of all the planning that the other day when one of my friends actually booked me a ticket for Oppenheimer and told me where and when to be, I almost cried!

DH does all the washing and running kids about. But he does WFH 3 days a week and has plenty of “me” time too, 1 hour lunch breaks etc!

I went from 4am get up today to 4pm home time on a bottle of lucazade! (Really not healthy I know!)

Definitely about you frame it and I set alarm to vibrate too. I also let DH know what time I need to be up, he's the reason I need the ear plugs so I make him help me get up lol

Ooo the vibrate alarm! Why did I not think of that!?

I think you are doing way too much. Can you try to do less? Easier said than done, I know. Today I have decided to get a cleaner as Dh works crazy hours.

I go for frequent trips away- my DC are older- and it is honestly a lifesaver. Even just a day out in a museum or gallery or at a spa?

You can do this!! Its totally within reach. Maybe not tonight if there's been an argument but tomorrow. Tell DH it's happening and let the kids know you're popping to the house to keep an eye on things and catch up on sleep.
Present it in a matter of fact no drama way and there's no reason for them to think anything of it

I might do that tomorrow. Got 2 more long work days ahead and we’re going fucking camping on Friday! I hate camping but it is with friends too so will embrace it 🤣🤣

Yeah, every day. But I come home each time after a thirty minute dog walk. Can't wait until school holidays are over 🎉

Do it! A night away won't harm them and give any reason you need to.

I do feel like DH has gaslit me tonight and I think that has what has tipped me!

We were probably a both a bit grouchy over tea but he flounced out! I tried to have a reasonable chat after (sticking to I felt that he was being rude). He said kids said it was my fault. He said he will speak to me again on the condition that I apologise! I said I don’t do conditions. He shouted at me (pinging in my face).

Pointing not pinging!

Just to add! My story from my day wasn’t boring (well in my opinion anyway). It was very stressful involving the police on 2 occasions throughout the day (a 999 call) and a visit from from senior figures from work and politics that I had to host!

I bet even Beyonce's teens find her boring.

🤣🤣

Frequently

Go and get a good nights sleep you’ll feel so much better

You don't need to upset the kids. Let them know very calmly that you have had a very stressful time at work, that you need a solid night's sleep as poor sleep affects your mood and that to ensure you get one you are going to the peace and quiet of in laws while they are away. You are not stropping off and you are not walking out. You are getting a good night's sleep, which you deserve, and you'll be back tomorrow.