Jealous no car

[Crapsummer]

This is probably a really silly thread . But its how I feel .

I kind of feel jealous of people who drive. I also feel guilty. When it's the school holidays it's hard to do day trips. I have to sort out trains /buses etc . What routes will work . It feels like everything takes longer.then there's the cost of trains plus entry cost depending on where we are going.

I suppose I feel jealous as well because my 2 youngest go to their dad for a bit he drives and does loads of day trips with them they are never at home ( their dads) when they come back to me it's much harder to do stuff. So I feel like the shit parent.

I have 4 children at home of different ages. So takes some organising.

I just wish I could jump in the car and go.

Just to add I can't learn to drive. I tried. I'm shit at driving. I have no road sense.

Oh OP you are me. It stings seeing teenagers whizz past me in cars while I’m getting piss wet walking.

I passed my (third) test, didn’t drive for five years and lost all confidence. I’m hoping to get it back as I pick up my car this week!

There is no reason you can’t or harm in trying. Everyone is shit until they learn.

Try again if it's such an issue?

What sort of area do you live in? I lived without a car for quite a few years and never found it held me back much, but then we lived in a city and had decent transport links. There were a handful of places I couldn't take the DC, but not too many in the grand scheme of things.

Assuming no disability that stops you from driving, why not give it another go though? It's 90% being in the right mindset and finding a really good and patient instructor who suits your learning style.

If giving it another go isn't on the cards, any chance of moving to an area that is better connected? Your DC might appreciate this when they are teenagers anyway as they will be more independent.

And while train fares can be expensive yes, overall you are almost certainly saving money by being without a car. Car purchase /finance, insurance, MOT and servicing, car seats for multiple DCz fuel, parking...it's astonishing how much it all adds up. A few trains and taxis throughout the year don't compare.

@countvoncount I tried a several times. And it was automated. I just have not road sense. I do have a learning difficultie so maybe it's linked to that. But either way I'm not meant to be on the roads.

@ostentatiousocelot I actually love in London. But it sill makes things harder. Yes if we do things within London not so bad but it's hard when want to travel further out . My kids also don't like the typical London stuff museums etc . Or even stuff that's In London but a different bougher i could still end up needs 3 buses or a mix of buses and trains . Uts also travelling with several kids . When everything is combined it's stressful.

Took me two years to pass my test OP. But I did and now I drive well. I'd try again.

I was 33 and pregnant with dc 7 before I passed! Finding an instructor you click with is vital.

It's hard, OP.

My son has dyspraxia and is now, at the age of 24, just considering lessons. We have no idea how it will go!

People saying find the right instructor and try again are very well meaning but the OP says she has a learning difficulty so it might not be that simple.

Yes . I can't explain it. My brain Just gos a bit mad 🤣 but im just not meant to be on the roads. Its really just me sounding of a bit. Because there's not really an answer.