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Which sports for DD?

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tuppencenonethericher · 07/08/2023 16:39

Just wanting to mull this over and get some input.

DD is 6 (7 later this year). Always had poor gross motor skills but improving and sports help with this. She also enjoys all kinds of sports.

So far we've done bits and pieces and some weekly things, but I'm thinking about what she might enjoy sticking at long term, including what would be actually doable for us as a family long term. That would mean not too expensive, not involving lots of travelling (some weekend travelling yes, but not every week, and definitely no long journeys on week nights), things teens tend to keep going to rather than petering out by the end of primary school. Also something that can be done indoors might be advantageous as we live in an area with terrible weather (rains year-round, can be quite windy, usually quite cold).

So far, I've had these thoughts:

Swimming: she currently has lessons through a private company very locally and really enjoys them. Huge waiting list for the nearest place that does national framework type lessons, and is a bit further away though doable. Planning to continue the weekly lessons regardless. Not sure if swimming becomes expensive when it gets competitive.

Gymnastics: she currently goes to a "for fun" class weekly. Enjoys it for now, but I don't think the natural aptitude is there for it to become a serious hobby. Also I'm under the impression it would involve training many days a week at competitive levels and it's a little far away so would make evenings very difficult. We'll keep going while she enjoys it, though.

Football: there's a local girls under 8s team. I think she'd enjoy this and has a good kick already, although training is past her normal bedtime (finishing 8.30pm so wouldn't be in bed until 9ish at least - usually 8pm). I'm assuming it's quite cheap overall? The timing is a pain, though.

Tennis: there's a place very close by. I'm sure she'd enjoy it but not sure if she'd be any good and if it's expensive or not.

Dancing: she has only recently started asking about dancing/ballet. She's kind of clumsy so probably wouldn't get past just low level hobby type level, and I'm not sure but guessing many drop out by the time they're in high school. There is also highland dancing nearby which I love the idea of!

Taekwondo: she had a trial of this and loved it. My hesitation was that firstly, the monthly cost was expensive (almost double the swimming lesson cost, for example), plus expensive uniforms, but also she has a tendency towards rough and tumble and we were trying to get her away from "play fighting" which sometimes gets out of hand. I was worried she'd end up "practising" her new kicks and punches on other people.

Horse riding: I think she would enjoy it, but it's not especially close by and I know it could get very, very expensive. We definitely wouldn't be able to get her a horse, even on loan.

Ice skating: there's a place about half an hour away though she's never been. No idea on cost etc. Slightly concerned she'd lose fingers out of clumsiness. She loves watching it, though, and wants to try.

Any other ideas? I know it might come across like I'm a pushy parent - I'm not, I just want to spend her time/our money on trying things that she might keep going to as we don't have much time or money to spare so I want to make the most of it!

OP posts:
Stompythedinosaur · 07/08/2023 16:41

I think she will benefit from trying out different activities until she finds something she loves.

I don't think you can pick your dd's teen hobbies for her when she's 6.

NancyJoan · 07/08/2023 16:43

Cricket, or indoor climbing.

There are lots of schemes to get kids into both tennis and cricket, which are a good, cheap intro.

Giantwindows · 07/08/2023 16:44

Rugby?

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Coronationstation · 07/08/2023 16:50

If she gets good at anything it’s going to involve travel at weekends if she wants to compete. Avoid anything that involves “costumes” e.g. dance if you want to avoid extra expense. Factor potentially unsociable hours to for things like swimming clubs which often mean early mornings and late evenings. You’re talking as if you’re planning an Olympic career for her whereas kids change what they enjoy and they become teens and if they’re playing a sport might suddenly find they’re suddenly not as good or keeping up with training or have the right body type etc once they hit puberty. She’s 6, just let her try what she’s interested in and see what she enjoys.

SertralineAndTherapy · 07/08/2023 16:51

I second indoor climbing, if there's somewhere near you! But the best is to try lots of things as one-offs before signing up for anything, if you can. No organised activities things stuck for our DD (which is fine, she developed other "solo" hobbies), but our DS liked it all and has slowly had to give things up as he's got older.

Alphabeta123 · 07/08/2023 16:57

If she is clumsy, i would do sone form of dance. my oldest has dyspraxia, and dance has helped hugely (he does a jazz class for 1 hour per week). He now can move and hus other sports have benefited a lot.

tuppencenonethericher · 07/08/2023 16:58

Stompythedinosaur · 07/08/2023 16:41

I think she will benefit from trying out different activities until she finds something she loves.

I don't think you can pick your dd's teen hobbies for her when she's 6.

Yes, but since nearly everything involves signing up for a full term, we can't try everything, so narrowing it down a bit would help. Also getting started with something we can't afford to keep paying for is worse than not starting at all in my experience (my parents did this - wish I didn't know how much I'd loved that hobby before having to stop).

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Daftasabroom · 07/08/2023 17:01

Sailing, canoeing etc.

Friggingfrog · 07/08/2023 17:04

id go for football. Team sports can be great for young children and grassroots football is quite cheap. My 7yo dd loves it- she is definitely not going to go on to become an actual footballer but she’s having a lovely time keeping fit and running after the ball with her friends.

SertralineAndTherapy · 07/08/2023 17:05

tuppencenonethericher · 07/08/2023 16:58

Yes, but since nearly everything involves signing up for a full term, we can't try everything, so narrowing it down a bit would help. Also getting started with something we can't afford to keep paying for is worse than not starting at all in my experience (my parents did this - wish I didn't know how much I'd loved that hobby before having to stop).

Ah, got you. The full term commitment is very annoying. Are there any activities near you which offer tasters, or one-off PAYG sessions?

2reefsin30knots · 07/08/2023 17:06

Any of the things on your list are nice hobbies on a once a week type level. Many of the things on your list will become eye wateringly expensive and/ or time consuming if she wants to excel.

The mainstream sports (cricket/ rugby etc) seem to be cheap, manageable and widely available. I'm sure they can also become expensive and time-consuming, but seem to be easy to keep at a recreational level. Martial arts is a good shout too, if she likes it.

SertralineAndTherapy · 07/08/2023 17:07

Daftasabroom · 07/08/2023 17:01

Sailing, canoeing etc.

These are great, but they're hardly indoor activities, and rely on having a local club. They ramp up to be very expensive both in terms of kit and travel if you're any good at them. (Personal experience here.)

2reefsin30knots · 07/08/2023 17:09

Daftasabroom · 07/08/2023 17:01

Sailing, canoeing etc.

As soon as you need your own boat these are expensive. You might be able to do a junior course of sailing at your local club for not too much investment, but there is generally the expectation that you will have your own boat at some point if you are going to carry on. My DS currently has two, and that is far from unusual.

Hellocatshome · 07/08/2023 17:10

Not sure if swimming becomes expensive when it gets competitive

it will become eye wateringly expensive, involve huge commitment from not only your DD but yourself and possibly other family members to get her to training and galas, multiple weekends tied up along with multiple weekends away involving hotel stays.

GreenMonstersParty · 07/08/2023 17:10

What about Hockey?

Busubaba · 07/08/2023 17:10

Judo.

2reefsin30knots · 07/08/2023 17:10

I would say he also has over a grands worth of kit in order to make sailing in all weathers possible.

Whataretheodds · 07/08/2023 17:15

I'd try to include something that can be done solo and something that is part of a team/sociable.

I'd personally avoid anything that puts a lot of emphasis on appearance eg gymnastics. And I think horse riding is a money pit!

Being a confident swimmer could lend itself to water polo, triathlon, general confiednce to try watersports

NinetyNineRedBalloonsGoBy · 07/08/2023 17:15

Netball ticks all your boxes and has been the making of my similar dd

SertralineAndTherapy · 07/08/2023 17:18

The possible problem with team sports is that they do involve a regular commitment. Of course, that might not be an issue.

Is there an indoor climbing wall nearby? Many of them run kids' classes.

MillicentBystandr · 07/08/2023 17:20

I don’t know you are asking strangers on the internet, a 6yo is more than capable of choosing a sport to do for a term. Just let her choose, stop overthinking it and putting your own oar in.

Daftasabroom · 07/08/2023 17:22

SertralineAndTherapy · 07/08/2023 17:07

These are great, but they're hardly indoor activities, and rely on having a local club. They ramp up to be very expensive both in terms of kit and travel if you're any good at them. (Personal experience here.)

Oops I missed the indoor bit. Skim reading. Hmm, totally get the expense of sailing, although lottery funding has made a massive impact.

SertralineAndTherapy · 07/08/2023 17:23

MillicentBystandr · 07/08/2023 17:20

I don’t know you are asking strangers on the internet, a 6yo is more than capable of choosing a sport to do for a term. Just let her choose, stop overthinking it and putting your own oar in.

Maybe because the OP was asking for experience of long-term cost/commitment involved in various activities? "I don’t know you are asking strangers on the internet" rather undermines the point of MN...!

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 07/08/2023 17:29

With girl's football (which is essentially brilliant, DD played 3 seasons before her team folded) beware that the teams in the league can be really widespread in a girls league, to get enough teams to have a league. And younger age groups tend to play earlier in the day. We had a lot of 7.30am starts for 8.30 am warms ups and 9am kick offs a U8.

erikbloodaxe · 07/08/2023 17:30

Wait until she actually asks to do something.