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How do I get over friends snub

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DandDoodlz67 · 06/08/2023 07:42

i met a friend at baby massage let’s say Amy … when our los were tiny , we got on great so I thought and spent a lot of time together
we joined a few hobby groups too
at one hobby we met a few more women all older who have older toddler age children
really nice people
Amy has been meeting these more recently a lot and nights out meals and cinema and play dates… however Amy has a pre school aged child and a baby the pre school age one is six months older than most of theirs.
ive been excluded from most meet ups, especially the things Amy has arranged and this includes play dates and park meets as well as nights out and cinemas etc
i can’t help but feel hurt
im finding the activity we do one evening feels a bit awkward now as she smiles then turns her back on me and the all go to one corner of the hall and chat together before and after. No one speaks to me same at local park , they were all sat outside a cafe there having lunch with the kids and I was walking past I just said hi then went home to cry!
I don’t have many friends here and am feeling lonely , so I don’t know if it’s more me and my own fault that I feel this way, I tried to make an effort with her new group but i think it made it worse almost like she was possessive of her new group.
she’s gone from messaging me every day to nothing and it’s been a whole month now. The few messages I sent, just asking how she were ,have all gone unanswered!so I stopped trying then sent another one on Friday asking about a meet up for the coming week but again she has read but not answered, shall I just give up… Has anyone had a similar situation and what advice can you give? My own hometown is three hours away and I have a few friends there but not meet up much!

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Kidsandcat · 06/08/2023 07:58

She is a social climber by the sound of it and those other women are sheep. She used you as someone to hang out with while establishing herself as Queen Bee. She now wants to keep the group to herself. Forget her, go to groups and talk to anyone, you'll find new friends that you click with eventually. Don't make the mistake of relying on one person for everything.

ThePatriarchyIsNotAboutHorses · 06/08/2023 08:01

She is no longer a friend.

Make your own arrangements with other friends or work on finding new friends - Amy should not be allowed back into your life and she has behaved badly and would do so again.

DandDoodlz67 · 06/08/2023 08:13

Thank you
I know what you are both saying makes sense and I can see the truth in it! I’m sick of feeling hurt and lonely
but you are right , I need to forget about her and try make new connections

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user1471462634 · 06/08/2023 08:40

Yep, really mean, she isn't nice. What's wrong with her saying 'meeting a few others with the kids, come along if you want". She knows what she's doing.

You will meet someone/others who'll you get on with. Just stick it out for the sake of your little one. Try other groups if you can, it will get better.

Virginsexonthebeachplease · 06/08/2023 08:47

That's a bit mean.

I have a couple of groups of friends and individual friends and I can see that it is awkward to sometimes mix the two eg if I had the group of 6 over to play it would be odd for me to invite one person outside the group but then I still value my individual friends and actually the individuals I have known longer that I value that bit more and make time to see them.

DandDoodlz67 · 06/08/2023 16:10

Thank you
mom going to look at some new groups that are suitable for my babies age group

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