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Creepy old man

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Scrambledbrainsfordinner · 04/08/2023 07:34

What is it with some blokes thinking they can do whatever they want to!?
Meant to be a family friend, 80yr old who I've known for a good few years, went went under shelter on Wednesday so I thought that we could talk, but he grabbed me and kissed me, and when I couldn't pull away at first laughed asking was I scared. I ran away, just can't stop thinking about it though. I'm late 20s. He is married!
Im sorry if it doesn't make sense I just wanted to get it out

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DustyLee123 · 04/08/2023 07:35

It’s assault. Report it and see if he’s still laughing.

Hiddenvoice · 04/08/2023 07:36

I’m sorry but you’ve been assaulted. Can you tell anyone in real life and go to the police?

mangochops · 04/08/2023 07:37

Report it- its sexual assault

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Scrambledbrainsfordinner · 04/08/2023 07:40

I don't want to tell anyone in real life, because he owns something that we have a small part off, to us its everything and I don't want to have to give it up

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C1N1C · 04/08/2023 07:46

So he has leverage over you? Does your partner know? I have a feeling he'd think differently about this.

Effectively this is blackmail...

mangochops · 04/08/2023 07:47

So then if this is so important to you, you'll have to see him again then, it could happen again and again and again. What do you intend to do?

DustyLee123 · 04/08/2023 07:48

It’s a shame you can’t report it as I’d bet you’re not the first. Dirty old man.

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Scrambledbrainsfordinner · 04/08/2023 07:51

When we started talking, was saying about money, then asked if I told my partner everything ( which I was thinking was about money) then he said to go inside. Because he knows my partner would go mad. He doesn't know, no one does. I'm still trying to get my head around it. I trusted him!

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Scrambledbrainsfordinner · 04/08/2023 07:53

All I can think of is try to avoid as much as possible and don't be stupid and go anywhere with him on my own

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UncertainSmiler · 04/08/2023 07:53

It’s a shame that you won’t report him; it’s so much better if these people are exposed and face some repercussions before they die.

BingoBastards · 04/08/2023 07:54

Is this about business or accommodation?

How are you so dependent on him?

mangochops · 04/08/2023 07:54

OP- you werent stupid, you noone expects a family friend to do that. What a horrible old perv. But dont ever be alone with him again and I think you should tell your partner.

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Scrambledbrainsfordinner · 04/08/2023 07:54

He would probably get away with it anyway. Knows so many people they would probably back him

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mangochops · 04/08/2023 07:55

You could put your phone on record every time you're around him. Then you have evidence.

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Scrambledbrainsfordinner · 04/08/2023 07:58

That's a good idea with the phone thank you. I won't be going anywhere with him anymore.

It's kind of like business.

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mangochops · 04/08/2023 08:01

I'd record every conversation and if he came out with anything gross, I'd play it to him and tell him if he doesnt stop it immediately I'd be sending it to his wife and the police

BingoBastards · 04/08/2023 08:01

He's obviously acted in an abhorrent and repellent way but you won't lose everything; you need to start detaching from him

newfloorplease · 04/08/2023 08:11

That's horrible @Scrambledbrainsfordinner.

I don't understand what you wrote in your original post "...... went under shelter on Wednesday so I thought we could talk....."
What did you mean ?

MzHz · 04/08/2023 08:28

@Scrambledbrainsfordinner you can’t keep this from your dp

itll mess you up. At least if dp knows, he’ll be the one dealing with him going forward

he can tell the bloke that he knows and blackmail him back for want of a better word.

if you keep quiet about this, HE has the power. If you tell your DP then YOU have the power.

write down exactly what happened, dates time all the details you can recall. Keep it safe.

Greybutterfly · 04/08/2023 08:53

You need to tell your partner !!!

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Scrambledbrainsfordinner · 04/08/2023 10:25

newfloorplease · 04/08/2023 08:11

That's horrible @Scrambledbrainsfordinner.

I don't understand what you wrote in your original post "...... went under shelter on Wednesday so I thought we could talk....."
What did you mean ?

We started of talking outside but the rain was heavy, so he said to come inside for a minute, went into a garage/workshop type place. I thought it was to continue the conversation

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AHugeTinyMistake · 04/08/2023 10:27

Tell your partner. Or dirty old man will and will make it sound like you wanted it.

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