Would you be annoyed if your partner went away with his dad instead of visiting your family?

[emritza]

Every year I go and visit my step-siblings in Glasgow (we live in Bristol). My partner came last year and met them all. We go the same weekend every year. This is the only time each year that I see them.

My partner has told me he is going to go away with his dad instead. He's going to a city that I wanted to go to for a long time, and we had vague plans to go to one year. He said he'd love for me to come, but knows I have the visit to Glasgow. He suggested I do the Glasgow weekend a different one this year, but usually I go up for my brother's birthday.

Well we haven't actually booked the Glasgow trip yet, but he knows when my step-brother's birthday is.

"Not a reason in the world to rearrange anything."

Well, no, of course not. But don't couples usually compromise for each other?

I wouldn't mind if he didn't want to come to Glasgow, but I would mind that he'd booked the exact same weekend to go away with his dad, especially if claiming he would love for you to come. There are 51 other weekends in the year you could have all gone together.

He should have checked with you first and made sure you were ok with him skipping the sibling weekend, but I don’t really see why his presence is necessary.

I also don’t see why he can’t visit a particular city just because you are interested in visiting as well. Multiple trips are possible.

Tbh, it's hard spending a weekend with someone else's family - so much history, so many in jokes, so much 'routine', so many norms and expectations...

He went woth you last year akd this is the only time you see them.

I'd say it's probably becaise, if he's going to spend the weekend with family, he'd rather spend it with hso so he's taming the opportunity to go away with his dad while you're seeing your family.

I get you were looking forward to spending the weekend with him but I think this solution is probably best all around and probably appreciated by your siblings too.

Is your step brother a child or an adult? If they're an adult then you can easily do a different weekend in Glasgow. An adult can celebrate their birthday a week early/late.

Why should op’s partner compromise when he’s perfectly happy with the existing arrangement?

I’d rather go away with my mum/dad instead of seeing my In laws so I’m with your husband.