Do I change my name?

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I took ex husbands last name when we got married (quite young) and we have children together so I stayed the same as them when we got divorced. Now I'm looking to remarry and I don't know what to do with my name. The older feminist me doesn't want to change my name to my fiancé's and I don't like the idea of being different from DC but I can't keep my ex's name when I'm married to someone else. Fiancé doesn't care either way and has offered to change to match us but that feels weird too!
Ex husband wouldn't agree to change the DC name so can't make one up for us all.

I'm over thinking this aren't I?

It's just a name. Your fiancé could change his name to yours and your children's surname. That way you will still have the same surname as your children.

I was in a very similar position and changed mine to new DHs.

My DC have never been even slightly bothered that I have a different name. It's the same name as their dad who they see regularly so they still have the same name as one of their parents.
I just explained it by saying I didn't feel comfortable keeping my ex husband's name while marrying DH!

I have said quite a few times that I wished I had just kept my maiden name though.
Three surnames is enough for anyone!

If your fiancé is happy to change then why don't you? Seems like he has listened to what's bugging you and is giving you the solution.

Which name feels like your identity? I changed my name when I got married as no desire to have my 'family' name - particularly as I don't even speak to my family and don't know anyone who shares the same name. I wanted to share a name with dh and future dc. Personally, my name now is my identity. I don't identify at all with my previous name and I wouldn't want to change it again or have a different name to my dc. I would go with who you feel you are.

I can't keep my ex's name when I'm married to someone else

Why not? If that's your preference but the only reason you don't want to is feeling like you "can't", I think you should do it.

Revert to your maiden name?

I don’t see why you can’t keep the name you have now if that’s what you want to do.

It’s not your ex’s name anymore than it’s your kids name or hundreds of other peoples name. It’s just a name.