If you could go back in time and undo your marriage, but it means your children don't exist, would you do it?

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If you knew what was going to happen or how your life would turn out to be, could go back in time and not meet your ex or current partner, and that meant you obviously wouldn't have your children, would you undo things?

Yes

no, but i'd get out sooner

Thank you for your replies!

God no! My dh is brill, I've had a lovely life with him and our kids are fab.

Yes without a doubt

No as I wouldn't want to be in a world without my kids but I would have left years ago. Like, about 5 minutes after my youngest was born!

Agree with Barbara - I’d have got out a lot sooner. I thought I was trapped financially but I’d have found a way forward.

no without sounding soppy my dd is irreplaceable, and i dont regret the relationship her dad even though he is a prick

No but I wouldn’t marry him. The only financial mistake I ever made was getting married and having to share the results of my hard work with someone lazy.

No but I also wouldn't want to have not married dh

Yes, I blame age and hormones I felt I should get married and have children and he was nice and stable and my parents liked him so we did the traditional route.

I like spontaneity, having friends over and going out and having a drink.

I am now married to a man who likes to follow a weekly dinner list we can't deviate from with two children who appear to have inherited all the anxiety / sensory / ND traits from his side.

I have to psyche myself up to ask if I can go out one evening as he cannot compute a routine change and he sulks or goes quiet.

No, but wouldn't have married him. Would have left sooner, potentially after the first child.

Im absolutely certain my marriage is over, but I'm almost also absolutely certain i will stay for the kids.

i adore my children but I stay only because they are are here.

Not at all, and we’re in the middle of a divorce.

My baby is all I ever wanted and everything I could ever need.

No amount of shit marriage could negate him.

agree.

No but I would've left a whole lot earlier than I did.

Oh yes, I would.

Absolutely not but I would have left immediately after my second and last child was born because it was the following two years that things went badly wrong and my MH has never fully recovered.

Yes I would not marry him.
I would however leave earlier & have kids with A.N. Other.

Absolutely yes . Married someone else and had kids that had a decent dad.

No I'd never wish I'd not had my kids. They are everything 🤩 to me.