18 month sleeping

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I have a 18 month old who goes to bed at about 20:00 and generally wakes at around 5.30.

I find the early morning wake alittle too much, and was wondering if there is anything I am doing wrong or could do better? Or is this just normal for some children and I have to suck it up and get on with it. Any thoughts or advice will be hugely appreciated

What are the naps like? I think 8pm bed is a little late for the age, is that when they are put down or when they actually fall asleep?

He goes down at 7.30 and then doesn’t settle until 8.

he has a 2 hour nap during the day. Do you think I should be putting him down earlier?

Mine did 8pm-6.30/7am with 45min-1hr nap in the day. I cut the nap down as we were having early wakes/split nights. 11.5hrs sleep overall is well within normal range at that age, so if you want more of that at night, you might have to sacrifice some in the day.

It’s tricky as with a lot of toddlers that age- good sleep breeds sleep. Mine often has a crap night if the daytime nap has been too long, or they fall asleep post 8pm. At 18 months no I wouldn’t be attempting to cut down a nap but keeping it at a 12-2 window if possible. But they’re all different. Mine definitely falls into the needing about 12-14 hours of sleep category at almost 2. He might be overtired or the window between waking up from that first nap is too long, or too short?

*if the daytime nap has been too short that should say. He def still needs at least 1:30. Needs a lot of fresh air and wearing out too, that definitely helps him not wake up too early. Although every so often we do have a 6am wake up call it’s usually 7.

I have been with my partner for ten years. However I feel pretty alone, and unsure what to do.

We recently decided and agreed that we was longer on the same page. We have now started to make more time for one another, and be kinder to one another however I am alone a lot. Most nights I am left to put a 4 year old and 1 year old to bed. I do school pick ups and drop offs, run an online business, run the house, walk and feed the dog most days, get up with the children throughout the nights (both still unsettled at times), do the morning get up with them and drive them most places we are going too.

He sleeps in the spare bedroom and gets up when it suits me. Leaving me to get everything sorted. He does run a business and works 3 nights a week, however he’s never in bed any later than 3. The things that keep him out most of the time is going to the gym with his friend (they go tea time) and he also runs and sports club so is at practice and meetings for that 2 nights a week.

i feel an incredible amount of stress internally and resentment sometimes (more so when I am tired) towards him as I feel very alone.

He is more like a manager than a husband. Tells me how to manage situations better etc. The truth is his advice is amazing and helps a lot, but he just doesn’t. He can be very intolerable and can be quite difficult in family situations, and whilst it’s actually easier without him around I resent the fact he’s not.

I sometimes think it would be easier to be single as I do everything myself. I make my own money, I manage the house, I drive the kids everywhere, and being single would stop me from holding this negativity as I wouldn’t have him to resent.

ooohhhhh I feel so much better for just writing this down. I love him, he makes me laugh, and we do get along extremely well, but our separation at the moment is probably building a big gap between us and making us feel very disconnected