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The Ex baby mum

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moolash · 31/07/2023 14:18

My partner has two children too two different women a girl aged 10 and a boy nearly 4

my partner sees his daughter every other wind along with his son at the same time.

I also have two children both boys aged 14 and 6.

the ex baby mum daughters mum insists on calling and FaceTime any day or time on the wknd that my partner has his daughter in his care.

we can be at my house or his house I really don’t like this invasion of privacy.

happy for baby mum to talk to her daughter but I really don’t like the FaceTime especially when I’m in my own home in my safe haven what can I do about this it really puts me on edge and makes me feel very uncomfortable.

any ideas I don’t know why she insists on calling Tahoe also quiz her daughter asking her where she been what we have been doing etc can this not wait until she see her on the Sunday evening I can’t even think about moving in together until boundaries are respected any thoughts advice ?

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wutheringkites · 31/07/2023 18:10

I don't blame her to be honest. If I had to hand my 10 year old over to a woman I don't know because their dad was homeless AND working during contact time, I'd be wanting to know what she was doing too.

ConnieTucker · 31/07/2023 18:11

moolash · 31/07/2023 18:03

No on his contact time he is off work with them as it’s every other wknd but all three are at my house.

he doesn’t contribute to bills but he does pay for food shopping since he has been with me which is couple of weeks now he has been looking for another place and knows this is just temp measure.

What does he do with them on his weekend with them?

Yea2023 · 31/07/2023 18:12

how often did mum call when he had his own place?

maybe she’s just worried? The circumstances don’t sound great.

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ConnieTucker · 31/07/2023 18:19

Yea2023 · 31/07/2023 18:12

how often did mum call when he had his own place?

maybe she’s just worried? The circumstances don’t sound great.

He has a three year old, and youve been together 3 and a half years. Thats some
fast movement from him.

MammaTo · 31/07/2023 18:26

moolash · 31/07/2023 16:01

My partner currently is homeless so he and his two children are coming to mine she doesn’t currently have her own room as my house is only 3 beds we have 3 boys and one girl

I just feel it’s an invasion happy for them to speak on phone but don’t want her on video in my home or randomly turning up at my house literally turning up on my drive because her half sister misses her ? I think that’s a step to far without being invited around

I think you’ve got a bigger problem then his ex FaceTiming her daughter.

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moolash · 31/07/2023 20:13

She does know me she has known about me and met me, 2.5 yrs ago

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moolash · 31/07/2023 20:15

So his son will actually be 4 in 2 weeks time just to clear that up when I’d met him he had split with her mum just after his son was born,

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Rathouse · 31/07/2023 20:21

So so much going on here OP it's a lot to read. So your partner is homeless, the overnight stays obviously need to stop why can't he take his kids out for the day? It's his problem.

I wouldn't of let him move on I'm sorry your own DC come first. He should also be paying for more than just a food shop (red flag)

Rathouse · 31/07/2023 20:22

In**

Yea2023 · 31/07/2023 21:37

moolash · 31/07/2023 20:13

She does know me she has known about me and met me, 2.5 yrs ago

Yes but meeting someone is different from knowing them esp if your child stays where they’ve no space and dad might not have made the best choices, that situ would/should concern most parents.

How is DSD coping? Does she seem happy? If so maybe the calls will stop soon.

Theunamedcat · 01/08/2023 12:45

Start suggesting rental places for him hinting on his exit before he gets even more comfortable at your place je must have saved money by now

ConnieTucker · 01/08/2023 13:09

moolash · 31/07/2023 20:15

So his son will actually be 4 in 2 weeks time just to clear that up when I’d met him he had split with her mum just after his son was born,

He left a woman and his newborn so quickly he was with another woman well within 6 months. That’s not good. He should have been using that time, and the money he would have spent dating, on finding a place to live for him and his child.

why do you consider him to be a good partner for you? What does he bring to the relationship? What does he do for you? Where does he take you?

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