People keep asking me if I am pregnant

[AnneAnon]

I’m not.

I have severe endometriosis and PCOS. And I guess I am slightly overweight (but nothing dreadful).

It is SO humiliating. I am now developing such anxiety over this issue that I’m avoiding going out to nice places because it will happen at some point and the night is ruined. Happened last week - out for dinner with my husband and in laws and the waitress asked me how far along I was. I wanted to die.

They are always well-meaning comments. And I can’t really blame them I suppose because I do look pregnant. But can we just like…normalise not making these comments??

i walk around with a large bag covering my stomach because I’m so desperate to avoid these comments. I am trying so hard to lose weight and thought I was making some progress but apparently not.

Well, as horrible as it must be for you, firstly I need to say how I’m sorry that you have been made to feel so rubbish because of it… secondly, I must stress to you that other people and there opinions are the last thing that you should be focusing on and absolutely not be let in your head enough to ruin your life like this…
lastly… what I would do, I would point out to the people that you value the opinions of that this keeps happening and give them the benefit of knowing that the next time you do get asked this, you are just going to embrace the conversation and go along with it as best you can… I’m a bit of a dick like that though. If you can’t escape an outside issue then all you can do is turn it into something that bothers you less, right? Try it… it might turn the embarrassment away from you for a change, especially if they finally realise they were completely wrong to assume such a thing.

oh and don’t forget to be holding a giant glass of wine as you inform the culprit of your second trimester being so care free and easy 😂. Dear me, I think I should just be locked up inside my own four walls for this kind of behaviour lol.

life is meant for enjoyment, don’t let anyone ever stop you having your fair share of that!!

hi OP, I also have endo and I get the same comments. It is so embarrassing and it makes me feel even more paranoid/embarrassed than I already do, especially in front of my family.

the last person to say it was the Asda delivery driver who took me completely by surprise. It was said in front of my teenagers who had a right giggle about it… me not so much!

Happened again at work yesterday in front of two of my colleagues (who know I’m not pregnant). Fuck sake.

It is excruciating. You get the ones who are embarrassed when I say I’m not pregnant and melt away into the background. That’s preferable. Occasionally you get ones who make a big fuss and go on and on about “oh it’s not that you look pregnant or anything I just heard you were!” 😒 do I look like I button up the back?

Really fed up today.