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Keeps asking me if I want chocolate biscuits

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5t6y7u · 30/07/2023 17:28

I'm a secretary with 4 others in an office together. A few years ago I lost 4 stone and have managed to keep it off - although I eat healthier now, I never skip meals, and actually enjoy healthier food in general, but still have treats, albeit less. I put on the weight initially eating a lot of junk.

A woman in the office, who always brings chocolate biscuits in and usually just leaves them in the office, has started asking me if I've had some/ am I going to have some. Some days I say no, sometimes I'd have one but always comments now like "go mad and have two" etc, which is starting to annoy me. I'm a normal weight and actually prefer healthier snacks sometimes now.

Would this annoy anyone else?

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PrettyScotland · 30/07/2023 17:29

Repetition is extremely irritating

Kimfluencer · 30/07/2023 17:34

I can’t stand this sort of behaviour. I worked with someone like this. She was constantly offering me (or just putting on my desk!) chocolate, biscuits, cakes. Literally every day, sometimes multiple times a day. And then commenting if I didn’t eat it or only had one.

I was sometimes tempted to make a snarky comment back about how much she ate, but took the higher ground and just repeated like a broken record ‘no thank you’ ‘I don’t feel like that’ or ‘I don’t eat cake every day’ .

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 30/07/2023 17:35

Yes I am really fed up with the constant pressure to eat more than you want. We’re meant to behave as if pressing food on people is kind and generous but in a society where food is cheap and more people are overweight than not it’s actually thoughtless and inconsiderate.

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cuckyplunt · 30/07/2023 17:38

Yell her you are lactose and gluten intolerant and that you will die if you are something containing both.
Though she’ll probably just go and find something in the “free from” range to force feed you.

Actually I would just say “No thanks, just lost 4 stone, I have no intention of putting it back on again.”

Prelapsarianhag · 30/07/2023 17:50

These feeders often have eating disorders.

shoppinisttimeagain · 30/07/2023 17:52

This would annoy me too op! I hate people having an outspoken opinion about what I eat

Stratocumulus · 30/07/2023 17:54

Take a biscuit and before her very eyes, bin it!

user1477391263 · 30/07/2023 17:55

I’m thin but have (genetic) issues with cholesterol, and I’ve noticed that if I refuse certain food (or eat only very small amounts) I sometimes get the same treatment, BUT when I explain “Sorry, the doctor has told me that I need to be really careful about this because I have a strong genetic tendency to develop high cholesterol,” people very quickly respect this and drop the subject. Perhaps you could invent a similar reason? (I understand most people in the UK don’t have their cholesterol etc. checked regularly, so it’s not exactly a lie - you COULD potentially have issues with cholesterol or insulin resistance or whatever that you don’t know about).

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5t6y7u · 30/07/2023 17:58

Like you, I'm a normal weight and also have had high cholesterol in the past- it's actually in my family!

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user1477391263 · 30/07/2023 18:00

Argh! Family history of high cholesterol really sucks, doesn’t it?

But maybe stating this might make Annoying Biscuit Lady back off, so there’s your cue!

Plutonium7000 · 30/07/2023 18:00

I've met people like this before, theyre a pain. I just say that i don't like cakes and biscuits. They leave me alone!

Tilly0921 · 30/07/2023 18:04

I used to work with a lady who did this. I believe she had zero control herself so tried to sabotage everyone else's attempts to staying healthy.

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UsingChangeofName · 30/07/2023 18:44

It wouldn't annoy me.
I just hear that as her being generous, and letting people know they are genuinely welcome to have a couple and she isn't just being polite by offering.

If you don't want one say "No thanks, I'm fine".
It's a non-issue.

SnowyPetals · 30/07/2023 18:44

I have given up most sweets, cakes, biscuits etc because I can't eat them without putting on weight. I have the odd one but in the office I find it simpler to just say "No thanks I don't eat them any more". That closes down the conversation.

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5t6y7u · 30/07/2023 18:46

UsingChangeofName · 30/07/2023 18:44

It wouldn't annoy me.
I just hear that as her being generous, and letting people know they are genuinely welcome to have a couple and she isn't just being polite by offering.

If you don't want one say "No thanks, I'm fine".
It's a non-issue.

She keeps asking if I've had any though, and if so how many, and if not, "why not? Go mad and have one " - that's more than just offering

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FictionalCharacter · 30/07/2023 18:49

Nobody should need to lie, apologise or invent a medical condition they don’t have as excuses to refuse food they don’t want.
”No thank you”.
Rinse and repeat.
If she persists, use the “stop” hand signal and say “no thank you” more slowly and firmly. Don’t smile, laugh, make eye contact, or pull apologetic faces. There’s absolutely no need to get drawn into providing her with reasons not to eat her biscuits or any other junk food.

SophieHope7 · 30/07/2023 19:02

Tell her to stop this. It's not fair

TomatoSandwiches · 30/07/2023 19:11

If she keeps going on ask her what's her problem and that you don't like having to repeat yourself for no good reason.

tuvamoodyson · 30/07/2023 19:17

Is she Mrs Doyle?

Lonnnngsummerholidays · 30/07/2023 19:19

Tell her chocolate and other sweet stuff sets of your IBS and she wouldn’t want to she sharing an office with you. Followed by a little laugh.

ThatFraggle · 30/07/2023 19:23

Please stop asking me the same thing every day. It's very kind of you to offer. I know where the biscuit tin is. If I feel like a treat, I'll help myself.

Alternatively, "I went to the gym yesterday. Did you go? Why not? Go tonight, go on!"

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 30/07/2023 19:28

UsingChangeofName · 30/07/2023 18:44

It wouldn't annoy me.
I just hear that as her being generous, and letting people know they are genuinely welcome to have a couple and she isn't just being polite by offering.

If you don't want one say "No thanks, I'm fine".
It's a non-issue.

A biscuit is what, 12 1/2p? That’s not particularly generous.

Frenchthing · 30/07/2023 19:30

Take one and throw it in the bin in front of her.

GrumpyPanda · 30/07/2023 19:42

Put some celery sticks on her desk. Every day. Ask her to take just one, or to go mad and take two.