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Who the fuck do they think they’re talking to?

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Gonnawashmymouthout · 30/07/2023 16:43

this has only started in the last few weeks.

on Instagram, I comment on a photo/reel. Then some random man (I assume) will comment underneath with some comment about my weight. Telling me I’m obese / need to get to the gym, or I’m fat and lazy.

I’m fat. A size 18. Not ideal; but frankly none of their business.

why the fuck have these men got the audacity to comment on my weight?

OP posts:
DiddyHeck · 30/07/2023 20:47

There's absolutely no need to bring race into this.

A wanker is a wanker full stop.

Begsthequestion · 30/07/2023 20:50

LakeTiticaca · 30/07/2023 20:35

Only white men ever behave like dicks then?

How did you get that from that?

It's about entitlement. Patriarchal, capitalist western society has centered and empowered a particular group above all others, and as such many people have noticed that many members of that group - (middle class) white men - exhibit the highest levels of entitlement, despite their actual mediocrity.

LindorDoubleChoc · 30/07/2023 20:53

Is this what Instagram is actually like? Anybody in the world can see your comments?

If so I'm glad I don't participate.

Mayhem3 · 30/07/2023 21:00

Keyboard warriors/trolls.

When the likes of the kardashians and Britney Spears get called fat and ugly on a daily basis then it’s obvious the issue isn’t with you, it’s them.

These comments should just be deleted straight away because every single photo I look on has these sorts of vile comments.

These are sad little people with miserable lives who wants others to share in their misery.
I would like to say it’s just men but I’ve seen just as many females post nasty things too.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 30/07/2023 22:06

I wonder if they'd pass these comments to obese men down the pub (I highly doubt it) Also are they perfect Italian stallion male models who make women faint at their beauty of something.
I'd just comment something like Just because Listen up needle knob, just you've got a 3 inch cock (when errect) don't take it out on me, sweetie pie.

AzureBlue99 · 30/07/2023 22:26

I have had white van man shout out fatty to me when out exercising. I am not fat, but they say it because they think it will crush me.

PistachioGelato · 30/07/2023 23:00

Gonnawashmymouthout · 30/07/2023 18:35

The original comment had nothing whatsoever to do with weight/ appearance. It was about cats. It’s happened a few times over the last month, which is making me wonder if it’s a thing? The weird thing is that after the first comment I made my profile private: so they can only see my profile photo. I’m a size 12-14 in the profile photo.

Report & block them op
And ignore the arseholes.

VeniVidiWeeWee · 30/07/2023 23:05

"Then some random man (I assume) will comment underneath with some comment about my weight."

Now imagine saying "a random Asian person or black person (I assume) will comment about my weight."

Isn't prejudice wonderful.

Mars27 · 30/07/2023 23:09

PriamFarrl · 30/07/2023 16:51

As the saying goes;

Lord, grant me the confidence of a mediocre white man on the internet.

Who said anything about race? Being white wasn't mentioned.
Weird.

StaunchMomma · 30/07/2023 23:22

There are LOADS of these twunts about at the minute.

Even worse if you comment anything they consider 'woke'.

I've had to change my profile pic to something neutral because the abuse was getting so out of hand.

It's like they're just waiting for any woman to comment so they can either call them a slut/whore (if they find them attractive) or fat/ugly (if they don't).

I highly doubt they're Men's Health cover models themselves!

StaunchMomma · 30/07/2023 23:23

Mars27 · 30/07/2023 23:09

Who said anything about race? Being white wasn't mentioned.
Weird.

And yet that's who 99.9% of the abuse comes from!!

Awittyfool · 30/07/2023 23:33

VeniVidiWeeWee · 30/07/2023 23:05

"Then some random man (I assume) will comment underneath with some comment about my weight."

Now imagine saying "a random Asian person or black person (I assume) will comment about my weight."

Isn't prejudice wonderful.

And maybe the Op is a black woman?

readbooksdrinktea · 30/07/2023 23:38

The world is set up to cater to men. Many act accordingly.

VeniVidiWeeWee · 30/07/2023 23:43

Amazing the amount of prejudice here.

Mars27 · 30/07/2023 23:45

@StaunchMomma Really? Please come back with some official statistics and then we can talk. Xoxo

Downunderduchess · 30/07/2023 23:47

I get nasty comments from (mostly) men on social media (FB & Insta) whenever I say something they don’t like or feel attacked by. My comments are never personal or nasty, more social/feminist commentary etc. Some blokes cannot handle it, so they say something about my appearance etc. it’s laughable because their accounts are typically faceless and my profile pic is gorgeous as it happens. Some people set up accounts just for the opportunity to troll others, sad little fuckers. It infuriates them that women have a voice.

Chickenkeev · 30/07/2023 23:55

Peoplec are dicks. Fuck them. You 're perfect as you are.

GarlicGrace · 30/07/2023 23:55

Feeling oppressed, @VeniVidiWeeWee ?

Who the fuck do they think they’re talking to?
VeniVidiWeeWee · 31/07/2023 00:19

@GarlicGrace

Not at all.

But misandry isn't a noble attribute.

Daisybuttercup12345 · 31/07/2023 00:22

PriamFarrl · 30/07/2023 16:51

As the saying goes;

Lord, grant me the confidence of a mediocre white man on the internet.

Why white?

Whatswhatwhichiswhich · 31/07/2023 01:16

I believe you OP, some of the comments I see to women on instagram are horrible. I’ve not noticed similar comments towards men but I haven’t gone searching for them either.

Oatycookies · 31/07/2023 01:28

Begsthequestion · 30/07/2023 20:50

How did you get that from that?

It's about entitlement. Patriarchal, capitalist western society has centered and empowered a particular group above all others, and as such many people have noticed that many members of that group - (middle class) white men - exhibit the highest levels of entitlement, despite their actual mediocrity.

This.

op, these red pills guys make it their business to harass fat women and women over 35+ who are happily single as well as other groups. It’s a distressing and worrying movement tbh but best thing to block and ignore

Gonnawashmymouthout · 31/07/2023 19:20

Some of the men: it’s obvious on the profle
that they’re male. Others: it’s the way they talk about women in their other comments.

im fat. That’s true. But fucked if it’s any of their business. Or that I want their opinions or actually give a flying fuck if they find me
attractive. I’ve got a well paying job. An amazing family, a lovely home, and enough self esteem to not get too upset about their comments. But seriously: they are very rude.

it’s as though they see women as second class citizens that are there only to look attractive and be their skivvies.

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lljkk · 31/07/2023 22:11

Does this work?

Who the fuck do they think they’re talking to?
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