How much money to send with DD?

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My DD has been invited on holiday with her friend for a week at a holiday park. How much money do you think we should send her with? They are not paying any more having her come (Sharing a room) but obviously they will be feeding her and taking her places and I don't want to take the piss! I thought perhaps £150 with money also to pay for a meal out whilst they are there? What do you think?

I took my daughters friend away once and she had £100 spending money- she didn't offer to pay for her own food or drinks and I certainly wasn't going to ask, she just spent it all on souvenirs and arcades etc meaning my own dd was constantly asking for more spending money too. So just be aware of that and make sure your DD won't do the same, or give the money directly to the parents if you don't think shes assertive enough to push to pay for things of they say no

How old is dd ? As in, will she and her friend be out doing things, when the parents are there, but also, in terms of the responsibility of having so much cash on her.

I think I'd give some money directly to the parents to cover meals & activities etc and then send some money with DD for souvenirs, arcades, ice creams etc.

Sorry I should have said she is 13. I may give her some money for spends and give the rest to the parents then. Is the amount what you would expect?

I would give £120 to the parents direct for the 'kitty', eating out etc and £30 direct to your dd.

Ah yes, at 13 she might not be confident enough to pay her way. If you could stretch a little bit I'd give £125/£150 to the parents and about £30/40 to DD.

I'd offer the parents £25 per person to pay for a meal out so if there are 4 going then £100. Then I'd give DD £100. Telling her £50 is hers to spend as she pleases but tell her £50 is to pay her own ticket if they go to a theme park or water park ect but if not she can bring it back home.

Give the £150 to the parents ‘for the kitty’ and then give her whatever reasonable amount you’d think for souvenirs and general ice creams and drinks type spending.

At a guess the meals per day would work out £25 per day - assuming breakfast if included in price of their holiday/they eat ‘at home’. So multiply that by number of days plus £30-50 for personal spending depending on your own feeling in how much a 13 year old should spend in a week

I would give 125 to 150 direct to the parents towards food and days out and abt 40 to dd for personal spends.

To gauge the amount to give to the parents you could ask if they plan to stay on site all week or will they be going for day trips and eating out, you can explain this is so you can estimate how much money dd needs.

£150 to the parents is way OTT imo! £100 absolute max and £50 to your daughter

Check with parents about plans see what they have budget for their DD spending. Give some cash to parents nothing worse than a kid having lots more spending money than your own kids as you paid for holiday for your kids so got small spending budget.

I had a similar experience, only the parents had given her the money and told her to pay her way for outings and to buy us all a couple of lunches etc, but of course she didn't. She spent money on herself and she still expected us to buy her ice creams and sweets - kept dropping hints about how nice things looked. We eat out most days and nights and had lots of excursions we paid for.
Her parents were only aware when she came back home with so much money, they questioned what she had brought.

So, I agree with others about giving most of the money to the parents directly.

I’d give £150 to the parents direct and £50 to my daughter.

Have you ever took a kid on holiday? 😂 £100 wouldn’t even cover her food, Ice cream, slushies, 3 meals a day specially as they are on holiday they will be eating out I presume, drinks, arcade games, entry to days out.

I've taken the occasional friend of dcs' away, and would take any money from you in those circumstances, but as, every time this question gets asked on here, the key thing is every family is different and every circumstance is different.
The 'expectations' should have been discussed before anyone agreed to anything.
When we go on holiday we don't really spend anything during the day - we tend to spend time on the beach or if too cold, we'll go walking somewhere. Some families however spend money to be entertained day after day. So, if your dd came with us, we wouldn't be spending anymore, but if she went with the other family then there would be extra costs wherever they went.
We like to eat out when self catering on holiday, so, on those nights, the cost would be higher with an extra person, so that can add up, but it the family cook for themselves and eat in, then they wouldn't noticeably increase.

Some families - when their dc gets invited - are actually really grateful as it means their child gets to go away when they wouldn't otherwise, but for other families, it can be really difficult to find an extra £100 - £200 to give the 'host' family that they hadn't budgeted for, and, if they had, wouldn't have spent all of it on just one of the dc, whilst siblings didn't get anything.

So this is another "it depends on what the circumstances are" question.
However, I wouldn't give much to the 13 yr old, as she isn't going to have the confidence to say "I'll pay for this meal out" or whatever, is she ?

I would give the parents some money, after having asked how much pocket money their kid will be having. And asking them general questions about meals and activities etc all under the guise of knowing what to clothes etc to send her with if you must.

So that way both kids have same spending money. And then the parents have the money directly to help pay for for food/activities etc.

Ok I will message the mum and ask a few questions. I would hate her to feel like some previous posters and feel like we haven't 'paid her way' if we rely on my DD to offer to pay.

I’d Deffo give some to the parents too and let your dd know you’ve done this. I remember going away with my friends family when I was a similar age, I didn’t quite understand how these things worked and always worried I’d be asked to pay the bill in restaurants so didn’t dare spend my money the whole holiday! Of course it wasn’t the case, my friends parents didn’t expect me to pay but my parents had drummed in to me that I should contribute but it felt so awkward ! I ended up spending most of it on the ferry home 😃