How often do you baby sit

[Nanna23]

How often do your baby sit your grandchildren.

I used to babysit my 2 grandchildren 3-5 days a week depending on their parents shifts ( fire fighter and nurse) If their shifts clashed I had the kids all day when they were babies and toddlers. Then when they became school age I did the school runs and waited for daughter or Sil to get home. Not everyone’s cup of tea but I loved it. I have a close bond with them now age 17 and 15 and love that although obviously no babysitting needed they very often ask to come for a sleepover and we enjoy spending time together.

I don’t babysit because I’m the mum. But the grandparents probably once every other month?
they do it when we ask them as a favour.
but tbh it’s so situational, some people have their parents helping out day to day.
if you’re feeling miffed, then it’s not working for you

As pp said - it is really situational.
Some people live nearby, others don't.
Some GPs work, others don't
Some GPs are young, others aren't
Some parents struggle with childcare because of shift - others work more regular jobs
Some GPs are healthy and fit others aren't
Some GPs have full, busy lives themselves, others don't.

etc etc etc

What does it matter what others do ?
Surely you just offer what you are happy to do.

It's doesn't matter . It was more of a general question. My daughter seens ungrateful for the help she does get so I was just wondering what others do. I should probably have put more context in more op.

Not me, but my mum used to look after DS every Tuesday while I was at work, and once every couple of months on a Saturday so I could see friends. I am a lone parent, DS's father not involved. DS is 15 now so I don't need childcare.

When the grandchildren were small, I was working full time, so babysitting was weekend stuff, or occasionally, a weeknight. When I went part time, I’d collect from pre school, feed and play, collect from school and feed and play until mum came home. Once a week, usually. Then we had them for weekends, overnights and once, for a fortnight.

Never.

Not as much as I'd like but DD and family live about an hour away. Not massively far but not near enough to be popping round frequently.

I work full time and still have other weekend commitments like mine and DH's elderly parents plus some of our own socialising and down time from work.

I genuinely would love to have DGS more but I'm not quite 50 yet. He'll probably be sitting his A levels by the time I retire.

My mum would have the 2dc one afternoon a week and stay to babysit in the evening so we got out for a drink or a meal.
PILs never helped after the novelty of our first wore off at about 12 months.
Both lived locally.

My in laws looked after our two once a week until they both started school.

Outside of that, they probably had them over night once ever 4/6 weeks. Probably less than that actually, we were lucky and had a few over night options for sitters so I think we had them looked after once every 4/6 weeks but it wasn't the in laws every time.

My mum visits from abroad about two months per year and when here does maybe twice a week, two hours at a time. She gets flustered easily so I don't ask her to do more.

My MIL lives 5h away and does an evening and an afternoon for us on average maybe every other month. She does dinner, bathtime, bedtime when she does an evening. She'll look after dd when I give birth to no2. When we visit them, she's very hands on so dh and I can relax.

They'd do more if we asked, I'm sure.

Dd is nearly 3 and has never done an overnight stay outside our house and I don't feel the need for it yet. Both sets of grandparents live too far

My mum never does

My parents and in-laws babysit maybe twice a year, they live too far away to do any regular babysitting