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Help me decide what to do next

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Leafless1 · 28/07/2023 11:22

Looking for advice and experiences please! I've had a tough 10 years and now have 2 young kids and reasonably well-paid job with decent perks. It's very boring though and having experienced a lot of loss in my life, I feel like I need a new challenge. I don't have a great relationship with DP and due to bereavement, lost my lovely parents so I often feel very empty and lonely. I feel I need to revamp my life to give me a new purpose and direction. Obviously I'm very lucky to have my kids but I'm also aware that I need to build a life for myself to avoid emptiness in the future.

Am I crazy to be looking at alternatives to my stress free job? There are definitely no opportunities for progression where I am. To give more background, I really did well at school and uni and have always been a good performer at work - but ended up in a really stressful industry that wasn't compatible with my personality or life circumstances at the time. I've been coasting in my current job (essentially admin but well paid due to sector) for years now and in many ways, it is ideal while my kids are young. But I need more in my life.

I am really interested in learning and have varied interests so have thought about coding, accountancy and HR. I can't go back to uni but I could do part-time study or a shorter term course. I wouldn't mind taking a drop in salary if there were prospects to move up the ladder.

Has anyone got any words of wisdom or insight into getting into these sectors and moving up? Also keen to know actual starting salaries and progression for these types of jobs.

Any advice? :-)

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midgetastic · 28/07/2023 11:24

My historic choice was to not rock the boat when children were young but to prepare for major changes when they were self sufficient

The job sounds reliable but short term you need some adult friendship?

midgetastic · 28/07/2023 11:25

Coding is relatively easy to get into as many companies will offer training type roles out of desperation

Python is a good language to play with to see if you like it as there are lots of beginner tutorials

Leafless1 · 28/07/2023 11:37

Thanks @midgetastic I do have adult friendships - and am good at making friends. I just feel even strong friendships sometimes aren't enough in the background of my life - hard to explain but my parents were always available to me, I spent lots of weekends with them and lived my life with them beside me (not literally but you know what I mean) So the boring job etc didn't seem to matter as I was fulfilled in other ways. Now I feel I can see my friends (and enjoy).but my life often feels a bit empty as there are lots of gaps and I need to put my mind to something new and have a new focus with meaning...

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