Somewhat light-hearted!
I have 2 kids, my DD an adult.
They have decided to switch bedrooms which actually makes perfect sense for various reasons. My eldest being very creative loves painting and has decorated for me before (and done a cracking job) so offered to do the main brunt of the work. Plus being that both hubby and I work full time and we thought it would be the quickest, most sensible option. I have paid for the paint and some new furniture as a joint early bday present for them both.
The whole process has become an enormous headache, and is making me really stressed. I don't want to make my DD sound like a bad person because she's not and I am absolutely a perfectionist so know some of the problem is me but my God I'm ready to explode!
She's a very scatty person by nature and also messy. She also has not yet left behind her teenagery attitude and opinions of she is always right, always knows best, and everyone else has no clue about anything. (Hit her teenage phase very late she was an absolute delight until she got to 17). So she started clearing out her room which has an abundance of teenage crap and I started clearing out my youngests room. My job did nt take long so I started painting the feature wall in her new room. She came home and gave me the whole eye rolling, attitudy, I'm not doing it right routine and whilst I went to sort something else out picked up the paintbrushes and took over. As a result of her being mad at me for interfering and her rushing it all and refusing to listen to my advice or let me help there is now paint on the ceiling, on the skirting boards and shes managed to knock over a whole tin of varnish on the carpet (which is being pulled up and replaced anyway but the smell and the mess is obscene not to mention the waste of money).
The mess is making me anxious. Sounds ridiculous and yes the problem is me but having my whole upstairs hallway filled up with her rubbish and dirty paintbrushes etc plus the fact she's pretty much messed up the painting so far and OCD me can only see streaks and blobs of paint everywhere it should nt be is making me jittery. She does nt finish one job before starting another and what has been done is unfinished. My youngest is currently sleeping on the sofa and has no room to call their own because she has nt finished clearing out her old room and their room is full of (her) junk and half painted.
I was up early this morning as I have a day off and started painting. She was in the room within minutes tutting over my technique and getting arsy so in the end I left her to it. And yes we have had the "it may be your room but it's my house conversation". And yes I've also told her more then once to wind her neck in.
I love the fact she is so eager to be involved and has taken this on as a project of her own. I don't want to wade in and do the whole I'm the mum so I'm in charge thing but neither do I want her cocking this up to the point where I cringe everytime I need to go in either of their rooms (which I don't do regarding DDs room as a general rule anyway but I'd still like the place to look halfway presentable).
Do I just pick up a roller and do it all whilst she's out and suffer the inevitable strop as a result?!