Not having more children - moving past this

[Duckduckie]

Anyone not having more children due to health issues and TFMR.

How do you move past not having more children? How do you get rid of the baby items? I’ve kept everything and dream of adding to our family but I don’t think it’s going to happen.

Looking for advice on how you move on and if the bouts of sadness get less and less with time?

I am in the same situation as you. For health reasons I can't have anymore children. It's hard but I keep reminding myself how lucky I am to have the 2 I have and that I risked my health twice to bring them safely into the world.
Its hard seeing friends have more children etc but I'm slowly just accepting this season of my life with a newborn/baby bit is over and to enjoy each stage as it comes with the 2 I have.

I am enjoying my life with my kids, I just feel like someone is missing. I still cry when people get pregnant, I need to try and be less jealous and more grateful for what I do have. I can’t bring myself to get rid the baby stuff I tried and went into a spire of depression for days

Grieving the baby years being over 😥

I completely get you on that. I still do as well. We lost our first baby and the loss still hurts over 4 years later even with having 2 children now.
It is normal to have that feeling of jealousy etc. I feel it too and when people ask if we're having more it's hard as I feel like I've got to justify myself or they're like oh well you've got one of each you can stop now and in my head I'm like but the choice has been taken from me to have more if I wanted to.

I've given away or sold stuff as I can't bear seeing it in the house anymore knowing we won't ever use it again. Makes it even harder. I definitely have my moments of needing a good cry to let all my emotions out.

I've kept the special bits and doing memory bears for each child with some of my favourite baby outfits of theirs. Could you maybe do that?

Sending hugs. 🫂🫂

I thoight it was going to be hard, relentless, and gruelling. My husband thought it was going to be all cute moments - he even planned to do some DIY on paternity leave. I actually coped a bit better with our first as the complete lack of control didn't come as so much of a shock.

It depends on your personality type though - prepare for the worst and hope for the best, works for me, but might not work for everyone

On the other hand, it actually might not be about you at all. A lot of people really struggled with the transition to being parents and it can help to talk about it