Tricky situation

[Wildmoors]

My nephew is smoking a lot of weed, he’s early 20s and is basically not doing anything with his life. I don’t know what my brother knows but probably not any of it as divorced and sees him sporadically. My elder nephew has basically invited his younger cousin to come over and try weed together, I have been informed by my DD who is close to her cousin, she says he feels really uncomfortable.
All told in confidence so I know I’m stuck by I’m so mad at the oldest cousin

Drug use is illegal, so I don't think I would feel bound by that confidence.

Can you have a chat to DD? Say that you don't want to break her confidence but you feel really uncomfortable about keeping this as a secret and want to do something?

Both nephews are over the age of 18, she is adamant that I need to keep my mouth shut, the youngest nephew has said he won’t be doing it.
I think unfortunately it would be the equivalent of me throwing a hand grenade in the family even though I am massively anti drugs

Weed is fairly ‘tame’ in terms of drugs so I don’t think you need to panic here. The chances are even if your other nephew takes him up on the offer he isn’t going to start smoking it all the time or doing anything he wouldn’t do otherwise.

Sounds like the older one is just spending a few years being a bit of a waster. Not worth seeing if your brother can encourage/help him get a job or sign up for a college course etc?

I have chatted to my brother about my concerns he is trying to suggest courses and motivate him , i think the daily weed smoking has completely de motivated him which makes me so sad

Weed is a gateway drug. I know people whose life has really gone off the rails who started this way. Glad you have taken some action.

Weed is a gateway drug and also has big effects on mental health and paranoia. Some people can smoke a bit, be happy, give it up and move on with life. Some people's lives totally revolve around smoking and they never move on and become unemployable adults.

He does suffer with MH issues but I have a feeling the weed has replaced his regular medication