Kids left alone in evenings !

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Neighbour is a lone father to two kids, both primary school age roughly between 9-11

He goes out probably 3-4 evenings a week and leaves them alone sometimes till 10.30-11pm sometimes till 2-3am

He also goes out early sometimes around 5.30am with golf clubs, they are also left alone a lot though day when he goes out and seem to be taking themselves off and home to holiday clubs alone too

Is this a concern or at there ages is it ok ?

What happens is he's in an accident or if they are?

My sister cooked a pizza at 11 and left the oven on. It burnt the kitchen down.

That's definitely neglect I would think 🥺

Are you certain someone doesn't come and sit with the children? Have you heard them screaming and crying? Sometimes we don't always see who goes in and out if that makes sense.

9-11 is more the age for leaving them at home while you go to the shop rather than evenings or long days. Could there be another adult coming over to sit with the kids.

I'm 100% certain they are left alone and no sitter is there

2-3am definitely far too late. Also concerning if he is choosing to leave them for social reasons.

It’s neglect, call the NSPCC and ask for advice as they may help with some support for the family.

Out of interest how long and until what time do people think is ok for 10-13 year olds? Obviously 2am is too late... but 12pm? 9pm? And how often?

If the parent is going out socialising most nights it could be neglectful. If he's working people would be understanding.

As the eldest of my siblings who was often left alone in charge of babies all night and sometimes weekends please phone Social Services and report this, it is incredibly unfair and neglectful to both children but the pressure of that level of responsibility as the eldest can cause life long damage.

I have a sensible DS aged 10 but I'd never leave him so late alone.

Definitely social and hobby reasons, I know what job he does and that's all office related hours