Unsure on whether to have another baby

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Currently have a 21 month old, our plan was to TTC for another at end of this year/the start of next year, hoping that there would be around a 3 year age gap however as time is approaching I'm really questioning if this is what I want. DP is happy with whatever I decide, he was on board to TTC later this year but equally he is very content with DS, as am I. I feel content in the life we currently have and we are financially comfortable (for now, until our mortgage goes up next year anyway), we're able to take DS abroad twice a year and have lovely days out as a 3. DS was always a chilled baby and has always been a fantastic sleeper and therefore I get a reasonable amount of time to myself and we have a good routine. DP works away Monday - Friday but takes over parenting from Friday afternoons while I get to take a back seat. I don't find being the only parent difficult during the week with just DS (I do work 4 days aswell). Babies don't make me broody, quite the opposite in fact. On the other hand I always saw us as a family of 4 and would love DS to grow up with a sibling. I worry about DS feeling pushed out and not being able to give him the attention that he deserves or that I just wouldn't cope alone all week if we had another and they were a terrible sleeper. In the long term though, I really think I would regret only having one. Maybe we should hold off for another year so there would be around a 4 year age gap instead, I'm not even sure on my reasoning for this. Did/does anyone else have similar thoughts, what did you decide to do and did you regret it or was it a good choice?

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It’s such a personal decision. I wasn’t sure I wanted another as I had an awful birth with our first, he was quite a ‘lively’ toddler and we were just really happy with one.

In the end, we went for it but have a just over 5 year age gap between them. It’s worked out really well, they are teens now and get on so well.

I think in your position, if you’re not feeling like you want another, I’d just leave it for now and see if it changes. For me, I started to think another would be nice when our first child was turning 4, before that, I was thinking we would stay at one. Something just changed.

I think you're right, I think I want to properly enjoy DS being so little and focus on just him rather than adding another one into the mix. I also don't think I could love another like I do him. My main reason for originally wanting a smaller age gap was purely because there's 5 years between me and my brother and we fought like cat and dog growing up and don't have a relationship at all now as adults, obviously I know that's not always the case but that's my experience.

Parents always think they don't have enough love to go around, but it just expands. Don't worry on that account!

You don't have to decide now. You might feel like TTC in 6 months' time, you might not. Unless you're going to say you're 40 or something, then there's no massive rush.

As for age gaps, you just work with what you've got, in my experience.

I feel the same. I have one DS and I am able to provide the lifestyle I want for him.

My DH has three other children (let's not get into their also my children bla bla) so money is tight on his side.

I always thought I'd have two DC however I've made my peace with having one.

As others have said, this is such a personal decision.

We haven’t got kids yet but I can see sooo many positives to just having the one. Do what feels right. You can always reevaluate in a few years, doesn’t have to be a permanent decision now

I always wanted one child. DH always wanted two. I was dead set on no more until DS started to approach starting school.

It was almost as though a switch had flipped and I wanted a baby again.

We were lucky enough to conceive within 3 months and now we have a 15 month old.

Our age gap is 5 years and 2 months.

It's perfect for us.