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Does this sound OK - present for stranger?

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Pocketfullofdogtreats · 24/07/2023 15:24

DD's landlady has just let us (me, DH and dog!) stay in her own guest room for a couple of nights while she (LL) is away, after the Airb&b we'd booked up the road turned out to be uninhabitable. This is obvs start of hols, and if she'd said no we'd have had to come home (DD rents one room). She has never met us but agreed immediately when DD asked her. I am super grateful and I've had a refund from Airbnb but she is wealthy and I don't really want to offer her money. I've ordered her a lemon tree to be delivered for her conservatory, with a thank-you note. But the tree is surprisingly cheap and I'm afraid it will be tiny. She is pg with her first baby due in December and I was going to also send her a small room thermometer with a longer explanation and thank you note. What do you think? Or money? Or just leave it as the tree alone? Thanks.

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Summer2424 · 24/07/2023 15:30

Hi @Pocketfullofdogtreats aww that's so lovely of your DD's landlady and very thoughtful of you to give her a gift. I think she'll appreciate anything you give her. The lemon tree is a lovely gift and I would have appreciated a baby room thermometer for my baby's room.
Have a nice holiday xx

vincettenoir · 24/07/2023 15:32

As the present is a gesture I think all you need is the lemon tree. But no harm throwing in the thermometer too. I would personally keep it at that though.

I think a lemon tree is a lovely gift.

TenOhSeven · 24/07/2023 15:32

Lemon tree is a nice gift.
I think giving a room thermometer is a bit random and I would find that weird especially as the baby isn't even here yet. Generally, if you have to explain a gift, that's not great.
I'd just leave biscuits or chocolates.

Limth · 24/07/2023 15:33

Thermometer is a weird gift for someone you don't know.

Lemon tree is lovely. Maybe a box of posh biscuits or nice chocolates as well.

UsingChangeofName · 24/07/2023 15:33

I think the plant and a card or letter of thanks is fine.

A room thermometer seems an oddly specific gift for someone you don't know.
I think, if you are giving a small gift as a token to say thank you - as opposed to a business arrangement to hire a property - then it is a 'thought that counts' situation. You don't then start adding to it and making a pile of gifts.

ItsCalledAConversation · 24/07/2023 15:35

Leave it at the tree, a baby room thermometer isn’t a gift.

Make sure the tree is well presented (wrapped pot/ribbon etc) and include a nice card.

If you want a second gift and you know she likes alcohol then a lemon gin might be a nice addition, or alternatively a lemon hand soap/lotion set as she’s a landlady.

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 24/07/2023 15:37

UsingChangeofName · 24/07/2023 15:33

I think the plant and a card or letter of thanks is fine.

A room thermometer seems an oddly specific gift for someone you don't know.
I think, if you are giving a small gift as a token to say thank you - as opposed to a business arrangement to hire a property - then it is a 'thought that counts' situation. You don't then start adding to it and making a pile of gifts.

This is very helpful. Thank you.

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Pocketfullofdogtreats · 24/07/2023 15:41

The room thermometer was because l feel so excited for someone having her first baby (even though I've never met her!) and I was given one as a new mum and found it very useful, and something I wouldn't have thought of. I have always therefore bought them for pg friends. But yes, I don't know her/her DP

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Pocketfullofdogtreats · 24/07/2023 15:46

TenOhSeven · 24/07/2023 15:32

Lemon tree is a nice gift.
I think giving a room thermometer is a bit random and I would find that weird especially as the baby isn't even here yet. Generally, if you have to explain a gift, that's not great.
I'd just leave biscuits or chocolates.

Sorry, I meant explain to her about why we couldn't stay at the Airbnb & needed somewhere to stay. But I guess DD can explain to her.

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 24/07/2023 18:18

You could get her some special pregnant lady tea- inexpensive but thoughtful

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 24/07/2023 18:37

Thank you all. I've already bought the thermometer but am going to keep it for now, and DD might mention to her. It makes sense what some of you have said - lemon tree is a 'thank you' and not to overload with gifts that she might not want. I'm confident about the lemon as she is growing peppers, chillies and herbs.

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