Guilty😳🤦♀️
It’s not something I’m proud of and am very conscious of - I’m much better than I was with age and a lot of practice of not doing it.
it comes out worst, when I’m passionate about something, and is a form (usually) of either agreeing with something very strongly, or the opposite where someone is saying something that I know won’t work, is not correct, or just an opinion I don’t share and I’m trying to get that point out to them make my point.
sometimes though, I do it because the person is very long winded, goes off on tangents or is hesitant- that, I’m sorry I say, is then just my appalling lack of patience
I think it comes down to personality types really. I’m a deep thinker, introvert but at same time very much a “driver” . I’m very factual and logical (science training). I’m also pretty eloquent naturally - it runs in our family , and we have our fair share of bullshitters too 🤷🏼♀️🤦♀️
I’m worse when I’m with people who are more “feeling”, less factual, less clear about getting to a point clearly, eloquently, especially people who need time to think while they talk. I do very often know what they are trying to say and because I want the conversation to flow instinctively jump in and push it forward. But, as you say, I’m sort of doing it because I feel I know what they want to say, and am mirroring what I have heard but then just want the point made and move on quickly.
That’s what so unattractive about what I do, and why I try to really temper it - I have to tell myself to slow down ,be patient and let people fully speak
I got so aware of this at work where I managed a team that worked on a lot of improvement activities, and did shared brain dumps etc, thst I introduced a “talking stick”. I wasn’t the only one with this unattractive tendency and had a few people who were full of great ideas but took a time to express them . The talking stick worked a treat, a bit bizarre for anyone on outside of team, but it became a short hand for my quieter team members to tell me to shut up safely - they’d say “I have the talking stick now”, I’d laugh, and apologise. It was the metaphorical telling off I needed .
interestingly, I have know way more men then women do this, especially in work environments. I have a theory that it is way more acceptable and normal for men to interrupt . And that a lot of people don’t even register it happening until a women does it. I used to count the number of times male colleagues did the same to me and never, ever, got pulled up on it. Whereas I got pulled up on it by male bosses early in my career, and worked on it , whereas in reality those same male bosses were worse than me. It’s men’s “authority” premium .