Come on ladies... help me find my backbone...

[PrettyScotland]

As of Monday I want to:

Stop kissing ass at work
Start standing up for myself
Stop worrying about making mistakes
Stop worrying everyone dislikes me
Speak more assertively
Stop beating myself up over nothing
Stop overthinking everything I say
Have belief in my own abilities
Regain forgotten confidence

And just generally stop being such a fucking pussy and pull myself together

Encouragement and a good kick up the arse would be very welcome!

Oh and stop thinking everyone else is oh so bloody perfect

A good start would be to temper the language you use towards yourself, as it’s really harsh. “kick up the arse…fucking pussy” etc. You wouldn’t say it to these others who you don’t want to please anymore so don’t say it to you.

so, you could reframe this issue as “somewhere along the line I learned that others are more important than me and are to be pleased, and I am now ready to change this pattern as it’s not working for me”.

But if you do completely stop caring about pleasing others please come back and tell us how, cos I for one need to know!