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I need to make things better

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Ds16dv · 21/07/2023 19:37

So I have had a hell of alot of stress over the years . A mix of stuff that's been just awful. And there is on going stuff that's not gonna disappear anytime soon. Sometimes I wounder what I have done to deserve all this shit .

Anyway I need to try and pull myself together. I feel extremely drained due to stress , one of my teens drains me so much mentally and emotionally.

I need to change things . Some things I can't control . But I need to take control of the stuff i can. Like I have lived in my house for 15 months. And I still have not made it into a home . I have wallpapered and painted my living room. new sofas . I have a massive ikea unit. That I have half built been like that for around a month . I buy curtains and not put them up. The bedrooms all have beds chest of drawers and curtains.

Because of some of the problems I have had to cope with that are on going I have not been able to cook properly. (Dv situation from son) I can't spend time in the kitchen because of that . But I want to start doing normal cooking like a normal person would . But im scared to take the step to do it.

I'm meant to be trying to give myself a kick up the butt to try and get on with life and even it out with more positive things but im even fucking it up on my own op .

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idliketogetdownnow · 21/07/2023 20:06

Give yourself a break and take it one small step at a time. It sounds like you're going through hell. Just surviving each day is a victory when life is like that.

Next time you feel up to doing a job, don't think about it, just do it.

Things will come together and get better. You're doing great just to keep going in the meantime.

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Ds16dv · 21/07/2023 20:45

idliketogetdownnow · 21/07/2023 20:06

Give yourself a break and take it one small step at a time. It sounds like you're going through hell. Just surviving each day is a victory when life is like that.

Next time you feel up to doing a job, don't think about it, just do it.

Things will come together and get better. You're doing great just to keep going in the meantime.

I know its just everything feels negative abd I wanted to try abd turn it round a bit

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junebirthdaygirl · 21/07/2023 22:45

I agree with going easy on yourself. Sounds like you have achieved a lot. Could you focus on making your own bedroom a safe haven where you can, hopefully relax at the end of the day. Bedrooms don't have to be fancy..they are OK for now. When it comes to cooking could you just do something very simple like scrambled egg on toast. That's fine. Be very gentle with yourself.

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Ds16dv · 21/07/2023 23:14

junebirthdaygirl · 21/07/2023 22:45

I just sleep in my room. Its not a place I'm able to spend time . But yes with cooking maybe start of small.

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determinedtomakethiswork · 21/07/2023 23:36

You were suffering domestic violence from your son? What's the situation like now? Does he live with you? Who else lives with you?

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Ds16dv · 22/07/2023 09:32

determinedtomakethiswork · 21/07/2023 23:36

You were suffering domestic violence from your son? What's the situation like now? Does he live with you? Who else lives with you?

The situation is up in the air. I can't even explain in. He's at home. Meant to be getting support. I just want to grt in a better place mentally. Hence my post.

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