Bloke (mutual friend) keeps messaging - just ignore?

[Celia24]

A couple of months ago a man who runs a local comedy club got in touch via one of my social media accounts asking me to participate in an event. I turned it down but offered to share with friends and that was it...one thing that got my back up was he double texted when I didn't reply right away - we'd never met.

A few weeks ago we both ended up performing at the same event (I'm also a comedian) as we have friends in common. Later he messaged to tell me how great I was and said I hope I see you at a show soon. Sure! I said. Last night he contacts me again to send a video he thought I might be interested in and 'what have you been up to?'

I'm not interested and I don't want to keep this going. But we are definitely going to run into each other every so often so I want to keep things civil. How would you handle?

I'd just ignore him personally, and would just not reply. He's obviously interested in forging either a friendship or more (who knows which) - if you aren't then there's no need to oblige him just because that's what he wants to do.

Just be polite and civil as normal when you see him, I'm sure he'll work it out.

Don't reply to him. If you do, just keep it bland and mention your partner.

@dontgobaconmyheart yes it's the fact just a few days ago he said he'd see me around soon but then contacts me very soon after that seems odd. It's very full on and off putting.

Clearly if I don't reply it will be a bit awkward when I see him, but surely it will be more awkward if I entertain this and he asks me out or something

You've no obligation to reply. I'd ignore.
If it's awkward when you see him, don't sweat it! I'd just say hi and might have a brief chat on work matters then would walk off.

I wouldn't ignore him. I'd just respond something along the lines of 'I've been busy with work and planning a holiday with my partner - I'm sure I'll run in to you at the next event! Take care'.

Block.