Is there a new Pamela thread?

[WasIBad]

Just seen that the other one is full.

@WasIBad concern over a person on the Internet, fine. Overstepping, not so much, especially considering the silence from her.

I think this thread should be taken down

I posted at 995 messages saying can we please not post anymore and leave space for Pamela or Kerr to update if / when they wanted to, but no, some LOVELY person filled up the thread with messages of nonsense just to end the thread.

@WasIBad

I absolutely accept you (and others) are well-meaning. I too am thinking a lot about Pamela, despite us all being 'strangers on the Internet'.

But it's still important to remember this is someone's real life, a very serious illness & a thread asking about her / a new thread is just not appropriate.

I too wish @idontknowwhattosay23 request not to fill up the last thread had been respected - it would have provided the easiest way, if that was their wishes, for Pamela / her family to update.

Agreed 😑

Wonder if mumsnet could delete the last few messages so it stays open and put a post telling people not to post.

It is a great shame that the gentle and sensitive request not to fill up the last thread was ignored. As others have said, that would have been the ideal place for the family to have updated had they so wished.

But now, yes, I too think this thread should go.

@treacledan71 I've messaged MNHQ to ask if this is actionable, you'd think people would have had enough respect to leave space for them but no, someone posted three messages about Swanage 😩

@idontknowwhattosay23

To give posters the benefit of the doubt, I think maybe they didn't read all the posts & so missed your (very sensible!) request.

Even still, you'd think posters would have the sense just not to do it anyway, as the thread approached 1k 🤷🏻‍♀️

Let's hope they do it. I feel bad as I did an extra post as I accidentally put Pam instead of Pamela and apologised. Feel like I wasted one. First time I had posted on that thread though. It was before you said stop posting. Obviously have been checking for updates throughout as thinking about Pamela and her family. Wonder if the person didn't see your post when posted their 3!

I agree OP, she was very supported and heartened by the threads and I believe it helped to unburden on here sparing her husband maybe some of her anguish. Ignore posters telling you it's in bad taste, Pamela herself started the other 5 so I think that tells you it was fine to start another.

I just feel sad about the whole situation, there has been no update from Pamela since the 17th, 4 days ago. The sad reality of her situation was that she was going to go downhill, at least for a time, as a side effect of chemo, if not the illness itself.

I agree that it should be left to her or her husband to start a new thread when and if the time is right for them rather than speculation, however well intentioned.

How is this thread still up

Talk about circling grief vultures.

If they wanted to keep posting or ask someone else to on their behalf, they would be doing so.

This thread is insensitive and in poor taste
Pamela posted about her illness and it was obvious how very Ill she is
We have no right to expect updates
We support her when her posts appear

I've reported btw

I reported a couple of hours ago.

There is a big difference between grief vultures and caring about somebody

The difference being, Pamela started those threads because she wanted to. Nobody has the right to start another thread about her, however well intentioned. She is not a news story to follow. She is a human being with a family going through something that nobody should ever have to. She and her family deserve the dignity and respect of being in control of any thread made about her.
That is not what is happening here.

I reported too early this afternoon.

So did I but @MNHQ are obviously planning to leave it.

Define "overstepping"

I think this thread is going to go wrong …