No significant wedding anniversary card ?

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Not brave enough to post on AIBU .
Just wondering if I'm being a bit over sensitive?
Was a significant wedding anniversary (25 years) and DH hasn't got me a card . I got him one and a small gift.
We did have dinner out ( but have been eating out all week as we are on holiday in UK )
I just feel its a bit sad that he didn't bother. I even left him in a card shop while I went to the public loo in town on the day , hoping he'd bother to buy one but he didn't.
So I've spent the last few evenings in this holiday let, with the one card on the windowsill all alone and it's just made me feel a bit sad.
Our kids ( adults) didn't bother messaging on the day either. In fact they haven't messaged at all this week. I've sent them some pics today and got a 'oh that's nice ' type message back .

No mention of our anniversary at all. I'm over thinking this aren't I ?
It's just not important to anyone else is it.

I need to 'man up' I suppose .

You're feeling neglected and understandably so. Tell him. Bit of romance would be so welcome I think.

He is generally romantic . But more so when other can see. Ie will hold my hand in a restaurant or is always the gentleman when we are out with others . Women friends of mine often say I'm so lucky . But actually I'm pretty lonely most of the time .

If he wanted to, he would.

Is the lack of a card symptomatic of a bigger problem ?

I'm not sure if there's a bigger problem. We get along ok . Still make each other laugh. Still intimate. He won't stop work and I get the impression that I should've either. But I want to go off and explore the world together, before we are too old to. He's not bothered. He works from home so it's not he'd miss work colleagues.

That ( me wanting to travel abroad more together ) and his mother are the only thing we fall out about really.

Did he acknowledge the anniversary in another way? It wouldn’t occur to me to get a card for someone I’m actually with, I see them more as something to send to people you’re not with. Maybe he thinks like that?

As for kids I just don’t think it’s as important to them, they probably don’t even remember the day/year especially if you’re away. “That looks nice” seems a pretty normal response to being sent photos of your holiday? What were you hoping for?

Yes he acknowledged this year and in the past has bought cards, he still get me a valentine card too, so just sad he didn't get one for this big anniversary.
Re kids they've probably forgotten. So the responses today were on a par with normal, just a shame they didn't remember our silver wedding anniversary.

i always find that if you want anyone to remember an anniversary or big birthday then you’ve got to make a big fuss yourself. Arrange a big party. Start talking about a fancy meal. Agree to go somewhere you’ve always wanted to go. Men are generally useless at such things and just hoping he’ll come up trumps when he hasn’t for 25 years is a recipe for disappointment.

Happily together for 35 years, I don’t buy cards for my husband because the sentiment in them is usually a load of old drivel!
I just try to be nice to him day to day 😁