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A boring birthday

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Pandaandpurple · 20/07/2023 21:51

Hi all, fairly regular user here but NC for this one…

It’s my birthday on Sunday but I’m really not looking forward to it this year. Due to dog-sitting plans falling through we can’t now go for the nice day out I had planned this weekend. All my friends have been really quiet recently (I have tried to get in touch with various people to say hi, and haven’t received much response) and I just feel I’m going to have such a quiet weekend with not many birthday wishes or any plans. My lovely DH will cook us a nice meal on the day, and I think mum is calling over for a cuppa over the weekend, but that’s about it. I’d love to have more plans made but I just feel a bit lonely about now.

Not sure what I’m asking really but I suppose…a) am I being a bit dramatic about it all and b) how should I cheer myself up this weekend?

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SleepingisanArt · 20/07/2023 22:14

I'm sorry that you feel that your birthday will be boring. I'd be thrilled that the most important people are sharing it. Bake (or buy) yourself a cake, get a bottle of your favourite tipple and enjoy the day. Really you don't need to party with friends but maybe your Mum could keep an eye on the dog so that you can go out for a bit?

PeppermintPatty10 · 20/07/2023 22:25

I was going to ask if there something unusual that you'd normally never do, that you can book for that day, but I suppose you had already thought of doing that with the day out plans!
Its just that then you could text some friends 'I'm giving X a go for my birthday, do you want to come too?' Even if no one is free/can get tickets, you got to do the one-off activity (for some reason I've got in my head ziplining through a forest 😂)

As said above, can your mum watch the dog so that you get some more free time?

YouDontBringMeFlowers · 20/07/2023 22:30

I am on my own and have learnt to plan something nice for myself or it would generally go unnoticed.

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Pandaandpurple · 21/07/2023 07:27

Thanks all, maybe I am overthinking it a bit. I am going to plan a few things for myself (cake, a walk etc) within what we can manage. My mum is struggling a bit with her mobility so running round after a puppy for a few hours isn’t ideal. I’ll think about the ziplining! 😂

Happy birthday for whenever your birthday is @YouDontBringMeFlowers! 💐💐

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inappropriateraspberry · 21/07/2023 07:35

That sounds like a pretty normal birthday to me! Is it a special/big one? If not, what do you expect?
What's wrong with a meal cooked for you and seeing family?

Deathraystare · 21/07/2023 07:53

@Pandaandpurple

Well that is more attention than I get on my birthday which is just after Christmas! No one gives a shit!!

bananaboats · 21/07/2023 07:56

Could you not going out somewhere with the dog? Lots of places are dog friendly now

Saturnsmoon · 21/07/2023 08:52

I had one of these last year due to a variety of different reasons so I actually ended up creating a birthday week for myself in which I planned something nice for myself every day. Could be as small as going to my favourite coffee shop for coffee and cake or cooking to get my nails done. On one day I bought myself a bunch of flowers etc. I’d actually say that I enjoyed that birthday a lot more than my birthday this year which technically had a lot more planned/going on but almost felt anti climatic as a result. Happy birthday for Sunday 💐

caringcarer · 21/07/2023 09:29

Could you do a bbq in the garden and invite over friends to drop in if they have an hour free. I did that for DH expecting about 4 or 5 would turn up but 14 popped in. Good job I had loads of burgers, steaks and sausages in the freezer and defrosted in the microwave before cooking.

NoSunNoSun · 21/07/2023 09:35

Could you go somewhere nice with the dog, do something nice on your own and your DH looks after the dog, do two shorter nice things with your DH and without your dog? Could you go
out for lunch or dinner and leave your dog at home? Could you go and get your nails done or anything else that you like to do? How about going to the cinema on your own and then order a takeaway if you don’t want to go out for dinner. Or plan a lazy day and the DH is your butler serving you champagne and grapes while you watch your favourite film in the afternoon?

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Pandaandpurple · 21/07/2023 10:09

Thanks all, I think I’m probably making too much of a big deal of it in my mind! Some great ideas here and I’ll going to make some plans today for the weekend. We’ll definitely take the dog somewhere dog-friendly at some point (weather permitting) and I love the afternoon film and champagne/grapes idea! Thanks again, you’ve made me feel much better 😀

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