Tern holiday dilemma

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Two ft working adults.
Three teens, one working.
DH has 3 weeks off. Including this past week.
I have 10 days ish off but have to work sunday.
Eldest has to work tonight, monday ight and tuesday night.
Younger two want to go away.

Dh has booked 5 nights at an Airbnb. Took into account my working and eldest working, so they would all go saturday, I would follow sunday night. DH booked it so the commute to eldest work is the same distance (45 mins) and we would drop them/pick them up from the train station on those nights. Dh had booked this place based on eldest commute. Would do day trip type things during the day to beaches and youngest wants to go to a water park.

Eldest now saying the spot is in the middle of nowhere and nothing really to do and it takes away a week of their studying for medical exam for uni entrance. Its apparently not worth it as only a few weeks to go until the exam and would rather study (they would, no chance if parties etc) and has said they wont come.

Dh annoyed as place was booked with them in mind (true, it's about an hours drive to the beach, but also true there isnt anything closer to do, so)

If eldest doesnt go, probably the middle dc wouldnt go as they are close and also only a year apart, whereas youngest is only 13. Yet to be confirmed as they are in their put asleep right now, although has previously said there is nothing to do where we are going.

So, what do I do? Leave a 16 and 17 year old for four nights on a holiday that is no longer a "family" holiday? Just dh and 13 yr old go, to a 4 bedroom property by themselves and i stay home? Or do we suck up the cancellation fee and all stay home? But then the younger 2 dont get a holiday cos of eldest?

There are also 2 dogs to consider, one whondg says will stay at home with eldest if they stay home but actually, can only be controlled by dg, and eldest would have to contend with them before going out to work etc

Sorry that was so long! Well done getting through it if you did!

If you have to work Sunday and eldest til Tues why didn't he book it from then?

If there is nothing to do as it is in the middle of nowhere, surely it would be ideal for the one studying to take study materials with them and study in a different location. He/she can stay in the accommodation and study whilst youngest goes to water park etc.

I'm Sorry but I found that very confusing to read and not sure what you mean about the dogs

Dont even get me started! Multiple options were explored, diaries synced. Eldest also has to work Thursday friday next week, so wednesday is really their only day off. I return to work next saturday. Dh wanted a nice long stay and didnt think a night ir two was worth it. I had no say in the length, place etc. I was told it was booked, when it was booked. I have been snowed under at work so he was taking charge on this. I was told that multiple conversations has happened and and it was 'signed off' by all parties.

Studiting there is an option, the place apparently has wifi. Will float that idea.

Sorry, fat fingers! Two dogs. One is very much dh dog and is strong and only really able to be controlled by dh, not any of us. Dog was coming, but dh now saying if eldest stays home, both dogs will too. Dog2 very placid and is small and basically my shadow so no issue.

Did DH ask the kids if they still wanted to come/if it would work for them before he booked it?

All sounds overly complicated. Did they get any say in where you booked? The 16 and 17 yo are not going to be interested in a holiday in the middle of nowhere. The 13 yo shouldn't have to miss out.

It's 45 minutes to commute the eldest to work but an hour from the beach?

I'd cancel and find something more suitable.

Eh? Do the dog can only be controlled by dh but if eldest stays behind you’re leaving the dog with her? How does that work!

regardless of the dogs it it was all signed off by everyone then everyone goes. If otoh they had no say then not surprised they don’t want to go to an Airbnb in the middle of nowhere.

eldest can study in peace while everyone else out. Change of scenery is almost always a good thing.

Go with the youngest DC and your DH.

And both dogs.

I said the dog still has to go. It staying was dh idea.

It was 'signed off' in theory. As in, a commuteable distance for work. The actual place only DH and youngest had seen,/chose.

I guess my dilemma is can i/is it fair for eldest or eldest/eldest two to stay at home while we are away, given it is the only holiday this summer.

Oh I sympathise, we have had similar dilemmas with teens, dogs, work patterns etc! Think of what will be easiest FOR YOU. Don't try to make everyone happy, it's not possible. I'd leave the 2 eldest at home and everyone else go, but if that's stressful send DH, big dog and youngest and chill at home.

last summer we left ds aged 19 and dd aged 17 behind. You.ngest came with us
we had 2 weeks in France, they were both welcome, but they preferred to stay behind and work.
Ds did go away with friends. Ddd had one weekend with friends in Wales

This summer dd has decided that having no holiday was miserable and is coming with us.

Give the older two the choice - come and work there and have day at the beach, meal out, family BBQ etc or stay behind but remember that means no holiday and no complaints.

Then take dogs and go with whoever wants to come and enjoy.

One is very much dh dog and is strong and only really able to be controlled by dh, not any of us

Bloody hell that's scary. Why do people have dogs like that?

And why did your DH book somewhere in the middle of nowhere?

OP your post reminds me of the year my 17 year old announced on the eve of Cornwall Haven caravan holiday that he didn’t want to
go with us. I had the choice of either forcing him to go or rushing to the local Tesco Express and buying him supplies for while I was away. I went for the second option and it all worked out well.