Procrastinating

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It's taking over my life.

As soon as I sit down to work, I find other things to do.

I can't focus. I can't sit still. I'm getting nowhere.

The house is either spotless - when I have a lot of work to do! Or filthy when I don't have work to do and I then procrastinate over doing housework.

It's a real problem for me.

I wonder if it's because if my circumstances. Shitty divorce from an abusive ex, constantly worried about my and the dcs future, a job I really don't love.

But things still need to be done.

How to avoid avoiding?

I started reading a book called “Feel the Fear but do it anyway”.

The theory being that we avoid doing things because we have some kind of anxiousness about them, so we decide to avoid them until we feel better about it.
(e.g. I’m on mumsnet because I don’t want to face the reality of my work inbox).

The book says that instead of waiting till we feel less anxious about it, we just need to “feel the fear, but do it anyway”. And then you’ll programme yourself to be less avoidant.

It’s obviously not working for me, but I’m going to get off mumsnet now and back to work…

For me...that procrastination is ADHD (diagnosed).

How do you get diagnosed?

I did wonder about ADHD.

Is there treatment?

It's a long process via your GP. Or quick but expensive if you go private.

Medication helps somewhat. There are coaching and/or counselling options.

You might find a diagnosis helps you just to understand and cut yourself a bit of slack?

But then this week I've spent most of it in bed "frozen" and unable to do anything because work is quiet and I don't have much to do...so achieving NOTHING!