how petty should I be?

[NameChange280]

Today's my birthday hence the name change

DH is putting the 2 kids to bed and there's a big birthday cake on the counter that hasn't been "served" - you know, with candles etc

I could

1 - call them all downstairs and point out
2 - sing happy birthday to myself, light and blow out a candle and serve myself a slice
3 - go to bed
4 - ignore it entirely and see what happens

This is on top of an already cunty birthday because kids have written me cards that say "to Mum, from Child". Both of them managed to avoid writing "love" on the cards somehow. Years of wiping arses and cooking dinners and neither of them can write more than "from Child" like I'm the dinner lady and they're signing a class card.

I should add as of yesterday DH and I had no marital problems

Cheers

Grab a fork and start at it Bruce Bogtrotter style. See how much you can eat before he returns and catches you.

Excellent, if I wasn't recovering from a stomach bug I might well!

Hi @NameChange280 aww sorry you had a crappy day xx
I would go with number 3 - go to bed but that's the kind of person i am, but if you can hold out then go with number 4 - ignore it and see what happens.
Happy Birthday 💐 xx

Depending on the ages of the kids i'd just call them down and say "oi, we forgot my cake"

If DC are younger than 10 I wouldn't tho cos it'll just be a pain to get them back to bed without a slice.

Just put it in the fridge to do tomorrow instead.

I'd leave it and just go to bed.
Address it with DH tomorrow.

I'd shout 'kids, birthday cake! time' and watch them pile downstairs for cake. They can always brush their teeth again.

How old?

Not YOU! The kids.

Surrey also depends who bought the cake? I might have missed that in the OP?

I'm feeling old

@OddOne2023 I picked cake and sent details to DP to sort, he picked it up today.

Unless you're planning on eating it all yourself. I probably wouldn't blow out candles with a stomach bug.

Happy birthday. If it's been crap, reserve a day to do what you want.

I'd go to bed, leaving it in full view

It's the most passive aggressive option.

P.s. Happy birthday 🥂🥳

I've been petty before. Managed to eat the entire cake by myself over a week and a bit (cake stored in pantry). You know when they remembered? The next year when they were discussing that it was a similar cake and they couldn't remember eating any. Well....that's because you forgot to sing happy birthday, or do anything "special" like washing the dishes, despite it being next to the kettle in full view. Husband and two adult kids. They remember now (which actually helps my waistline).

I didn't have "eat the whole cake" on my list but this is the sort of inspiration I am looking for!

Just wait...

He'll come back from putting the kids to bed, spot the cake and will want some so will have to mention it. He can't ignore cake long term.

Where do you live OP? Was thinking that perhaps a load of us could rock up wearing feather bowers, armed with prosecco and do The Congo around the kitchen whilst singing Happy Birthday and gorging on cake! That'd show them up!

I have a feather boa, am I allowed to wear anything else?