Feeling Sad... Trigger Babyloss

[SadMum1994]

I lost my eldest son many years ago. He would have almost 30 now...
Heard today that a young man who was born a month after ds is going to be a Dad..
I congratulated his Mum when she told me but I've been quite tearful tonight.. 😔 😔

Sending you massive hugs, it's always painful when it's around a milestone.
I lost three of my sons and had a good old cry when they should of been starting reception last September.
Be kind to yourself op.

I'm so sorry. That must be really hard to hear. I imagine that although things get easier on a day to day basis over time, the grief never really leaves you. My mum lost a son before I was born nearly 40 years ago and I'm aware that even now certain things can be triggering. I just wanted to wish you well OP x

I'm sorry you're feeling sad. Do you have someone there to have a cuppa or chat with tonight? Or something to do to distract yourself?

I lost my son 7 years ago and often bump into a family who had a baby the week after mine died. It's so difficult seeing someone else walk the life you should have had. It can be a painful reinforcement of what happened to you and what you've missed.

My Mum knows... We have discussed it..

My twins would be 10 now, we have other children now and generally life is good but I still have my moments and often I think it is worse when you aren't expecting it like in your situation. I had a proper wobble when we went on our first big Disney trip last year when I thought how unfair it was that we never got to take them on holiday. Only for a few mins but it did shake me. Huge hugs.

OP I’ve tried putting the right words down and deleted my efforts a few times now. I had a loss myself recently and can’t articulate exactly what I want to say but I didn’t wanted to say nothing just because I can’t say it perfectly. I wish you well and I think it will never matter how many years have passed, you will always love your son and wish things had been different xx

Thank you all. I saw the father to be tonight and congratulated him....