How much rent to charge?

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Dd has finished uni and jhas come back from a gap year a month ago. She is back home with a view to saving to buy. She stays with us 3/4 nights a week and her boyfriend stays 2/3. The rest of time they are at boyfriends parents. His parents are not charging rent as they want them to save their money. We are not as well off tho and charging something would be helpful. Dd works 30 hours a week in hospitality her boyfriend has a full time manual job. If she lived with us full time I would charge 20%. Which would be around £300. I was thinking of asking for £100 a month contribution. So she can still
Save.

Ask her what she feels is reasonable and negotiate.

Yes discuss with her but £100 a month sounds reasonable if you really can’t afford to not charge her.

So if you look at nights with you for both of them it’s 5-7 per week. Charge her £300, save what you can from that and give it to them when they’re ready to buy their own place or set up home.

Whatever people's personal opinions on charging adult offspring rent, if you were to charge your daughter and her boyfriend - would it be more likely than not they would move to the boyfriend's parent's house full time?
And would you want that?

Would you feel resentful if they stay at yours and don't pay you.

Are you considering the accommodation aspect only and they would be paying their share for food, utilities etc, or is whatever amount you come up with to include everything.

Including everything I think it's a bit easier. I will ask I think and discuss from there.

If she is likely to be sensible and save I’d probably just charge what it genuinely cost us for her to be there. Contribution to to bills and, food (unless she’s buying her own)
mortgage/rent and council tax would be the same regardless if she was there or not so I wouldn’t expect a contribution to that and I would consider the free ish accommodation my contribution to helping them set themselves up with a home. IF she is genuinely saving.

However, if you think she’s likely to get comfortable with free accommodation and not save I would charge full rent, save what I could and ‘surprise’ her with a nest egg down the line.

I guess the first port of call would be as k her about her savings plan and how you can help. you know her best to judge the approach.

My DC are 23 and 24 and earn 30k, I charge them £200 each. In your circumstances I’d charge about £140.

Given bf's parents don't charge anything if you charge rent they will likely move to bf parents house full time. Are you ok with that? Instead you could ask for them to buy some food now and again.

I think I’d just be getting them to buy their own food .

I have also been struggling with this. I am a 47 yr old single parent with 2 daughters. 1 is 17 & still at school and the other is 22 working full time, from home, bar 1 day where she is in the office. She was living with friends for a year and was paying £300 rent plus food, gas, electricity etc.. I am struggling a little and have worked out the cost of rent, food, electric, gas (& internet as she needs it for work) and divided by 3 and it works out at around £200 per month ( taking into account I get a little help from universal credit) Obviously this is less than what she was paying and even though my parents charged me a minimal amount of housekeeping when I started work I do feel bad asking her for it. I'm not sure how to word it in the right way even though I know she probably won't mind. She does her own ironing etc & I have implemented a new chores rota for them both to help me out as I was starting to get stressed out doing everything as I work 4 days a week. Any advice would be greatly appreciated on how to broach the subject with her & if its the right thing to do. She is saving into an ISA for a house deposit eventually and seems to be managing her money well.

I used to charge my daughter’s £15 a week and I saved it all for them and their child benefit went into a savings account for them and then when they wanted to move out I gave it all back to them!

Why don’t you suggest you’ll charge £300 and you save £200 for her so she’s not tempted to blow it?
I think it’s perfectly reasonable to charge her a contribution.